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I stay up late and watch YouTube and I tried not too, but I can't and the guilt is killing me so much I say hateful things about myself and cry no one knows but my mom is on to me. Please give me advice about how to stop!
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Hating yourself is worse than watching YouTube late at night. It’s not a good nor healthy way to convince and support yourself in that direction. It’s not something to feel too guilty about, I do it all the time on this website.
So, if you wanna stop this addiction, hating yourself is not the way to go.Don’t confuse punishment with growth, rather punishment does the reverse. Instead of punishment or praise, look at your goal, look at what you want to do.
In this case it’s not going on late night yt
How are you going to teach yourself?
It’s easy to say “just one more video” or “eh ima do what I want”
So how do you prevent that?
Punish yourself? No, that actually makes it worse (I know adults that do that, it’s not a good thing you should stop)
So what do I propose you to do?
Nothing
Why? Why do I ask for no “carrot and stick” method? Why do I ask for no tactics from books or online sources?
Because it worked for me, and there’s a chance it may work on you too, but we all think differently.
You have to think of the consequences to every action you do, don’t add more unnecessary consequences, and don’t alleviate any of them either (“you can lie to your teacher, your friends, your family, but you can’t lie to yourself”-some dude I know) you just know the solid truth what had been done.
And I want you to consciously ask yourself: “is it worth it to continue watching YouTube?” I want to have you ask yourself “is it worth it?” If you avoid the consequences then you do, you don’t need to add anything to convince yourself otherwise, because doing that was entirely up to you to do. Just ask yourself while watching ur next time when you do: is it worth it?
If it’s a yes then deal with the guilt and consequences that follows
If no then no more YouTube
It’s a simple method that I think you should try, it won’t have you immediately stop, but it’ll wither away at your bad habits as they climb, and it’ll shrink every day. It’ll shrink if you put in the effort to give it thought, and give it more effort to put that into action.
That’s how I work, u do u tho
ReplySet the phone down. Take a week or so and only use the phone for texts or calls. No FB, no media period. I mean total blackout. When you can't sleep I want you to close your eyes and think of of your version of Paradise. Build it in your head may take a few nights. Play some nice relaxing music of you need to block distraction. I just useny noise cancelling headphones with no music. Almost total silence.
I keep focusing on that place everytime I need that mental break. Peaceful serene. Don't share that place with anyone. It's yours and yours alone. Fill it full of happy times and happy memories. Build it, mold it shape it. May it yours.
Know that people like us have been thru the same and we are here to help. My hand reaches out to you, heck I'm a bear hug guy. Mr R just gave you a big hug. Lol. Take care and do stay in touch. Things will pass. Keep positive and focus on you.
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