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Sometimes I'm glad to be a woman, im privileged to be born somewhere where I have the right to have an abortion. I would never want to have kids, I would never want to allow a child into this world when I know how low life can get.
I saw girls say they have dreams about having a child and feel sick by waking up and it not being real. And I think it really highlighted the fear I have of being forced to have one. I've had a few dreams where I become pregnant and I'm unable to abort, It always ends in me being sent to a phych ward and desperately trying to get to my baby so we can die by suicide. I know it's an extreme thing to think but I can't bare the thought of having a child that could go through what I've been through.
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I totally get this, even though I'm male. I think it's f'd up that in the year 2023... 50 years after abortion was legalized (decriminalized), we're right back in the mid 20th century with women being forced into the horrible situation you described. FORCED to have a child? Land of the free, huh?
All I can say is, it's great you appreciate that privilege. It shouldn't be a "privilege" it should be a basic element of life, like the ability to get a tumor removed if you have cancer. But I guess in this disgusting political circus, you never know what crimes they'll start charging us with next. Imagine being forced to carry a cancer tumor.
ReplyIt's your human right to have an abortion. Man-made laws are just that, man-made. Your human rights are independent of man-made laws. So you shouldn't need to feel priveleged because some man bestowed upon you your human right which you are entitled to anyway.
ReplyIt is a good idea to not have children because the world is overpopulated and running out of food. Also, there are all of the weird weather events that are getting worse and happening more often.
ReplyI respect your choice but I do wonder if you're young as you may change your mind later on. I also think in matters of extreme circumstances where your partner turns out to be abusive, that you should be allowed to abort aswell because they'll just make you and your childs/childrens life a living hell.
I always wanted to have children of my own growing up in the right time and with the right man, but sometimes life doesn't work like that. I had my first child back in 2020 and I love them very much, never felt a love like that before. I had unfortunately a very traumatic and unpleasant birth experience where it resulted in Postpartum Hemorrhaging. I still have alot of questions, "paranoia" about the whole experience and this happened during the pandemic which made matters worst at such a vulnerable time. I don’t regret it at all having my child because i always wanted a family of my own, continue on with building a good life for myself and family of my own.
I did end up being hospitalized for "postpartum psychosis" but I believe the mental health professionals at the time misdiagnosed me, as I wasn't having hallucinations of wanting to hurt myself and my child etc...
There's some mental health professionals that can do more damage than good when they don't listen to you and take into consideration on what you have to say or not believe in what you say either.
It can cause you more distress and feelings of helplessness when you do need help or reach out for help.
I believe it was a combination of mental illnesses like Postpartum Depression, CPTSD/PTSD as i was very panicked and fearful of the whole birthing experience which appeared as "paranoid" thoughts.
I had very good reasons as to why I felt panicked, fearful or "paranoid" but I won't get into details. Overall, most women have very positive birthing experiences and some like myself don't. This is why it's extremely important to have support from your partner (father of child), friends, family, medical professionals during and after pregnancy. It's much easier to navigate during, after pregnancy and motherhood when you have a good support system present. Most parents always want what's best for their child/children and make sure they don't have to go through difficulties of what they've been put through. Just have to do your very best as there's no such thing as being a "perfect parent". There will always be some trials and errors in parenthood but it's all a learning process. Parents can't protect their children from everything but can only do their best to their ability. Parents can improve in the best realistic way possible to ensure their child/children have a good and healthy life.
I understand that now it's harder considering having your own children when the economy is not great and while there's other worldly difficulties. You still shouldn't have that choice taken from you whether you want or don't want children most importantly. Adoption and foster care is also not always the greatest option for many reasons. I can speak for members of my own family and people i know who've been adopted or in foster care. It's one of the many reasons why alot of women perfer to abort than put their children up for adoption and into foster care, because of some horrible experiences and incidences. It isn't selfish to want or not want children in my opinion and we all should respect everyone's choices, even when we don't agree. Your choices of having children or not shouldn't be taken away from you! Do what you think is best for you, your life and your circumstances. Don't ever allow yourself to get influenced and forced by what other people want to enforce upon you.
J
ReplyI respect your choice but I do wonder if you're young as you may change your mind later on. I also think in matters of extreme circumstances where your partner turns out to be abusive, that you should be allowed to abort aswell because they'll just make you and your childs/childrens life difficult. I always wanted to have children of my own growing up in the right time and with the right man, but sometimes life doesn't work like that. I had my first child back in 2020 and I love them very much, never felt a love like that before. I had unfortunately a very traumatic and unpleasant birth experience where it resulted in Postpartum Hemorrhaging. I still have alot of questions, "paranoia" about the whole experience and this happened during the pandemic which made matters worst at such a vulnerable time. I don’t regret it at all having my child because i always wanted a family of my own, continue on with building a good life for myself and family of my own.
I did end up being hospitalized for "postpartum psychosis" but I believe the mental health professionals at the time misdiagnosed me, as I wasn't having hallucinations of wanting to harm/hurt myself and my child etc...
There's some mental health professionals that can do more damage than good when they don't listen to you and take into consideration on what you have to say or not believe in what you say either.
It can cause you more distress and feelings of helplessness when you do need help or reach out for help.
I believe it was a combination of mental illnesses like Postpartum Depression, CPTSD/PTSD as i was very panicked and fearful of the whole birthing experience which appeared as "paranoid" thoughts.
I had very good reasons as to why I felt panicked, fearful or "paranoid" but I won't get into details. Overall, most women have very positive birthing experiences and some like myself don't. This is why it's extremely important to have support from your partner (father of child), friends, family, medical professionals during and after pregnancy. It's much easier to navigate during, after pregnancy and motherhood when you have a good support system present. Most parents always want what's best for their child/children and make sure they don't have to go through difficulties of what they've been put through. Just have to do your very best as there's no such thing as being a "perfect parent". There will always be some trials and errors in parenthood but it's all a learning process. Parents can't protect their children from everything but can only do their best. Parents can improve in the best realistic way possible to ensure their child/children have a good and healthy life.
I understand that now it's harder considering having your own children when the economy is not great and while there's other worldly difficulties. You still shouldn't have that choice taken from you whether you want or don't want children most importantly. Adoption and foster care is also not always the greatest option for many reasons. I can speak for members of my own family and people i know who've been adopted or in foster care. It's one of the many reasons why alot of women perfer to abort than put their children up for adoption and into foster care, because of some horrible experiences and incidences. It isn't selfish to want or not want children in my opinion and we all should respect everyone's choices, even when we don't agree. Your choices of having children or not shouldn't be taken away from you! Do what you think is best for you, your life and your circumstances. Don't ever allow yourself to get influenced and forced by what other people want to enforce upon you.
J
ReplyFor some odd reason my comment is being flagged when it's not hateful or disrespectful. It's just giving insight to my own experiences etc...
Have a feeling they're trying to silence me.
J
ReplyWow that got flagged quick, at least there being careful, I hope they put it back
ReplyTrue, it's good they're bring careful...
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