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it's happened about 3 times no in the span of 5 year i would say were i just loose touch with great friends i had because they chose to spend all of their free time with gf.
it's not even like i want to spend all my time with them or anything, i to have a gf also but i make sure to spend my free time between her and them like any normal person?
And it's not like they cant see their gf a lot and when they can, it overlaps with the time im free. Honestly my best mate who i live with , I dont think we would see each other as much at all if we didnt live together, during the summer break (we go back to our parents houses to work) she is always fucking over at his house litterally everyday and makes poor excuses to not come to parties or hang out.
Their still my boys though and we remain close it's just so frustrating when i'm the only one making an effort.
Am I the problem or should i just open up about it to them?
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I doubt that opening up about this to them will make any difference because they are comfortable the way they are.
Replyyea I guess it seems like it's that
ReplyUnfortunately this is the way it is. Every friend I've had, male or female, ends up dedicating all their time to their significant other. And I'd be lying if I said I didn't do it too. It makes sense if you think about it. A person's partner is far more than a friend could ever be. They provide emotional support 24/7, they help financially, they help make major life decisions and play a material role in their partner's life. A friend sometimes crosses over into that territory but let's get real, I'd never quit my job and move cross country for a friend, would anyone?
So what I'm saying is that it's a calculated move to invest more time in a partner, even to the exclusion of all else, because that's the person who is going to save your life. It sucks for friend groups but that's the way life is after we graduate high school, friend circles dissolve and eventually disappear altogether. The only solution is, like everyone else, become closer to your partner to the point where you don't need outside friends so much. Just the casual once a month get together, etc.
ReplyExcept his gf is objectively not the best partner for him at all but yes she does provide emotional support in some way, and I do disagree though if you are in your early twenties and already giving 100% of your time to your partner it's kinda sad your not making the most of your youth and it probably will catch up to you, I think it's kinda sad thinking that growing up is just having the 1 partner and seeing your friends once a month that's definitely not a generalised thing even in your 30's and would not recommend for everyone to do...
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