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This is such a small thing but I feel guilty.
Someone I considered my best friend forgot my 18th birthday earlier this years and it really upset me. It really wasn’t a big deal by itself but the thing is that nobody but my parents and a teacher remembered, so I really wanted her at least to say something. I stayed up until 11:59 waiting in case she remembered. It never happened. When I confronted her about it a week later, she just gave excuses and never even said sorry. Saying she doesn’t really care about birthdays. I totally get that, but my feelings still lingered.
Anyways, yesterday was her birthday and for the 10 years we’ve known each other, I’ve never forgotten her birthday or not gotten her a gift. We’re in college now so I wouldn’t be able to give her a gift (don’t have the time nor money), but I didn’t even text/call her for a happy birthday. I didn’t forget, I just felt really petty about her forgetting mine and I’m just so sick of doing things for people that they wouldn’t even do back for me. So I didn’t tell her happy birthday. I told her twin brother, but not her, even, to be extra petty.
I know it’s alright to feel the way I do, but I still feel guilty for not telling her happy birthday. Part of me hopes she feels a little upset so she somewhat understands how I felt, but I also feel guilty for not just being nice like I usually try to be despite my emotions. Realistically, I doubt she cares at all, as I know I value her far more than she values me and unlike me, she has plenty of other friends who probably sent birthday wishes. And it’s not wrong to set boundaries for myself and stop doing things for other people who don’t care. But I still feel guilty. Idk
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I would have done the same thing and not felt guilty.
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