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I dont know what to do
My husband always tell me that im always wrong
Whatever i do, it’s just not right for him
When he yells at me for an hour, two hours or more
I’m not allowed to reply. But when im silent, im wrong
When i reply, im wrong.
He always said bad words that really hurt my feeling.
For hours, i just said yes and im sorry.
But Sometimes i cant handle it i cant hold my tears.
But when im crying, he yells me more.
Said that im not obey to him, cry means I against him.
When he’s mad his words really2 awful.
Even he said to me he didnt wanna have kids with me.
Idk why but but his words just make me dont wanna have sex with him.
I used to write on my diary apps on iphone, but i just found this website and hopefully i can write my feelings and be better person.
I never fight him back, i never said bad words to him, and im always say yes to him.
I just don’t know what to do.
When he’s mad, i feel guilty but he told me to be normal.
Don’t be sad, dont be angry, don’t frown.. but how can i be normal (like normal situation) when the situation is really bad.
Im not an actress i can’t just smiling when he’s mad :(
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Im not married ,but if I was you i would tell him to have therapy couple because as Im reading hes acting like a perfect shitman ,i think u love him too much but if he act like that than hes not deserve of your love ,because from what im reading this is just pure abuse dear,u did nothing wrong alright?just the fact that u have to write here because of him tell a lot about that man,please try to ask him about therapy couple or divorce him even though I understand it could be hard.
ReplyHi thank you for your respond
Yes i cant just share this feeling to anyone like my friends or family.
Because he seems so cool from outside.
But actually he’s not a bad guy. He always prioritizes me.
But when he’s in anger, he changes to a bad person.
I have asked him many times to do therapy. But he told me that i should change first.
And i just don’t know how im supposed to do.
I always wanna try and learn. I make notes when im wrong so i dont make same mistake twice.
But afterall im just human and might be make mistake even a little.
He’s always right even he’s wrong.
ReplyWhy are you obeying him? You are an adult, not a child. Do you understand what a normal healthy adult relationship is? Why are you in a marriage if you don't understand what a healthy relationship is?
ReplyIf he seems a nice guy but he gets extremely rude when mad then he has anger management issues or bipolar sort of.
First thing stop this obeying thing trust me once you have kids with him you will be shattered so will your child(I'm assuming you don't have a baby with him yet)
Second try to for a couple therapy he'll probably manipulate it like u have a problem and he is perfect but I guess therapy is needed.
He is clearly playing with your "yes sorry" behaviour so change it. Give him cold shoulder. Talk about his behavior to your family/friends.
Always remember you both are married . You both have equal say. This is not a contract where you are his slave and he is your master.
ReplyTime to be a free woman and get a divorce. Time to find someone new.
ReplyThe best solution is to divorce him. You are not a slave, you have your rights, your voice, use them! You don't have to endure so much violence. You don't have children together, so I don't see any obstacle to not getting divorced.
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