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last year I joined a team of people volunteering. This year they needed people to run the team. One guy wanted to be president of it so I said he could because I have another year with the group after him so I could just be president next year. Then, after a month or so he messaged me asking me to be the president because he couldn't handle the stress of it. I agreed and I have been working hard as the president now for 3 months. he has been doing jobs for the team but he volunteered for them, I didn't ask him to do those. I have done so much personally to build the team up. It has been stressful but now we are in a good place and I feel proud of it, I have given up so many opportunities and so much of my time to make sure we succeeded. Yesterday, the guy who stepped down as president said that he thinks we should both be the co-presidents. I told him No and that a team should have one leader and that he gave that role up to me, I was very polite about it and he said he can see where I'm coming from. He told me he cared only about the success of the volunteering project and and I see what he means thinking that two presidents would help with the workload but he doesn't realize how much I have been doing, and I would happily do his jobs but I let him get on with them as he offered to do them, so it was very helpful to have him do jobs for me. Also, I have finished jobs he started and a few times he has not come through with what he said he was going to do. But now after me telling him No, he wont reply to me and he has access to all our accounts, he changed some of the passwords a while back and he always managed to dodge the conversations where I would ask for the password. I thought he was just a bit absent minded but now I feel as though he intentionally didn't give me full access to everything. He also failed to make me an administrator on our website although I asked him several times. I have been stressing about this all day, he was unwell yesterday but he has read my message and didn't reply to me.
I wasn't worried about my limited access to the websites previously because we were very busy and because he told me he was dealing with some of the admin stuff, I was not in a rush to get that access. I should have pushed to get all the passwords and everything so i was completely in the loop as the leader. But, I just want to stop stressing about it because I have decided to wait until tomorrow to see if he replies before I do anything. I feel as though I will get the login details soon because he cannot ignore me, I can speak to our organisation leaders about him if he continues to ignore me and they can help me to get access. I have spoken to other members of the team and they agree that two leaders is a bad idea. But for me it is just the fact that this guy stepped down from the position and let me deal with all the stress for the last 3 months, and now that things are actually going well he wants to lead again. We disagreed about something in the past and I had to put my foot down and my team agreed with me on that subject so it wasn't a big deal but it is exactly why you cant have two leaders. We have also trained new staff and they know me as the leader. The guy also publicly announced his stepping down to the group so it would be very unprofessional to change roles again. He announced new training that i didn't agree to also so I have to decide if I will try to fit more training into my busy schedule or just if I have to look unprofessional and say that the training dates are not what was previously announced. I don't know if he is doing this on purpose but I didn't view him as a shady guy at all until this. i just want to know people's opinion on the situation. I appreciate it, thank you.
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Why can't the team just be themselves? No one needs to be president of it. It is ridiculous that people want a title. He is doing this on purpose because him being president alone would be too much for him and he is probably scared that he wouldn't do the job properly but if he was president along with you he could lean on you as he did the job and it would be easier for him. He wants the title but not the job by himself.
ReplyWe have to have those roles, it is the rules of the organisation, we need at least 3 roles including President, vice president and Treasurer. We have discussed that the roles don't have to mean anything specific really and I have told him he can contribute as much or as little as he wants. I use the role Coordinator instead of president anyway when talking to the group, but on our official documents, the role is president and It is my name on there.
ReplyAnd I have been leading for the last 3 months and he has been following my lead through all the stressful stuff.
ReplyContinued: if you must have a title 'team leader' would be a better title than 'president'.
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