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I love my mom. She's nice and sweet, but sometimes i cant help but despise her. I come out as non-binary, she says she supports, yet she never calls me by my name. She says she supports trans, yet when she asks me what gender my friends are, i have to tell them their birth gender.
She says she understands what im going through, yet i have to go trhough painful loops over and over again. "You dont have to talk to her, we just have to give a quick visit" she said when i was overstimulated and wanted to just get on with it. But i can see her pointing at me, telling them the things i want nobody to know. She gets them to talk to me, even if im not prepared or anything.
She says she wants to help, yet get so mad at me when i cant take her advice. "You have to try" she says, and i reply "I do, but it never works". She has broken my trust so many times, and i hate to trust her, but i have nobody else. There is nobody in this world i trust enough to tell this. I regret venting to her. I regret talking to her.
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For some reason, your mom is right. You have to step put your anxiousness and being uncomfortable. How do you know it wouldn't work, if you don't try?
ReplyCan’t lie I agree with your mother. Can you really stop trusting your own mum because she gets you to talk to people. I get it’s annoying but it happens to everyone. My mom used to force me to speak to people I didn’t want to or felt completely comfortable with. It’s just a life skill that’s good to get used to, to communicate. It not like they were harming me. Never thought it was that deep and definitely wouldn’t go as far as to say she gave me trust issues…
Replyi do also understand that she's trying to help, but the thing is, i have autism and when my mom makes me talk with people unprepared, i get really easily overwhelmed. She knows this very well, but still does it. She even does it when im already overstimulated, so thats why its getting harder :(
ReplyMental health issues arise in people for various reasons but 20% is as a result of our genes and 80% is environmental. This means if we have a good environment and strong relationships with our closest relatives, then we will be just fine.
My advice for you is to fix your relationship with your mum. If you can heal what’s gone wrong there, then you can also heal yourself and fix your own issues. Nothing compares to the bond we have with our mother and if she is our best friend, we can be positive and happy in life and achieve whatever we put our mind on.
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