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What does it mean when you identify with someone who's verbally abused you your whole life? I mean genuinely have gender dysphoria because you feel like you should be JUST like this person even the same gender? Does anyone understand this mentality? I've been trying to understand and overcome it for years...
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I don't know but gender dysphoria itself is very complex, gender dysphoria stemmed from a singular abusive person would be even more so. I'd suggest seeing a professional, especially since you've had the issue for years.
I wouldn't call this gender dysphoria though because you're not really identifying with a gender, it's a singular person you're identifying with (and they happen to be the opposite gender). I wonder if it's an issue of identifying as that person and wanting to be them/like them because they're stronger than you and get what they want etc. In an abusive relationship why wouldn't you want to identify as the perpetrator, rather than the victim. I think it stems from that and you need support for the abuse.
ReplyThank you for this - I would like to add that it all started with this person but I do identify with more than just him. Men in general.
ReplyIt's pretty much become wanting to be a certain type of man - The type of man he is when in reality, I think if I were born male I'd be the opposite.
ReplyAh thanks for clarifying.
I really do wonder if it's about being the stronger one and not identifying as yourself, the 'victim'. It's ok either way anyway, as long as you work through it yourself and love the person you are and what you can offer the world now and in future.❤️
My sibling had gender dysphoria and it's not something you can work through alone. You need professionals that can support you and give you a safe environment. Safety is so important for you I think.
ReplyNo problem at all and I've wondered that too to be honest. I've thought about this from so many angles it's exhausting. I do believe that it may be part of the issue but I think there is more to it as well. I appreciate your kind words and glad your sibling has someone like you to be there for them. :)
ReplyTrauma bonding. That's all I have to say. Gender Dysphoria, as mentioned is extremely complex. I have it, too!
ReplyI will have to look into that, thank you for mentioning it to me and so sorry to hear you have to deal with Gender Dysphoria as well. I know it sucks and that's putting it lightly.
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