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Are guys allowed to go to a bar like hooters or ojos locos if anybody has heard of those. It’s a place where it’s like a bar and restaurant and girls are serving you with very minimal clothes books almost out and booty shorts or like in ojos locos. They are wearing almost thongs or body suits. Or sometimes lingerie if it’s the one in Texas. My boyfriend said his co workers suggested a spot he is the youngest of his work group and all the other men are like late 30’s and old. He says they have the old mindset in their lives where the man does whatever the fuck they want. Some of them are single OLD men. Early thirties… makes me wonder why they’re single and not in an established relationship huh. My boyfriend and I have talked about our boundaries before and we are okay with going to bars/ not clubs. Just bars and he said they suggested this place and he got to the place and it was ojos locos he said his co worker said he knew a Spot to go to and it turned out to be ojos locos he called me when he arrived and he told me the name I was like Uh wtf? Girls are half naked there. & he said Lmao I was wondering what that meant. He’s not a Spanish speaker. alright it’s cool I’ll just tell them something came up and I’ll head home. Which he Did come home but I’m annoyed because it’s not the first time he’s gonna hangout with them if they work together, and he knows I’m not okay with him going to those places. How do men establish these things with other men?? Does it go like OH my wife doesn’t like me going there?? I feel like immature men will pick on the one respecting their wife/girlfriends expectations. I don’t know how to bring it up to my boyfriend I know it’s probably not gonna be the first time. WHY do men exist like this, he said 2 of them have a kid and wife and they still went and stayed. I was like wtf… and now my head is overthinking and I just keep thinking what if he ever hangs out with them and they’re bar hopping and they actually go to one of those places😔😔. I hate overthinking. I hate being a girlfriend and having to overthink. Do girls also not care if their man goes to these places ?? Please tell me I’m not the only one and I’m not overreacting): do girls say fuck it men will be men. Because I’ve heard that answer before and it’s so sad..I’d rather be single instead of suffering like that. & having to deal with someone who is not loyal and honest with me.
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Nope, you need to keep them on a short leash and when they start hiding things from you you should start doing the same thing.
ReplyTemptation is everywhere, and it is not just a problem that men encounter. Women encounter temptation at work, they tend to form emotional relationships with male coworkers, simply because women thrive on trust, and they see their male coworkers often, and form an artificial trust relationship, meaning, if he was "that man" on the street, you'd never trust him, but because he happens to share the same employer, you trust him. So, guys/husbands everywhere have to endure their wife/gf going off to work and being around their male coworkers, living with the risk that the devious male coworker might try to take advantage of her trust, and invite her out for a drink... and then everyone knows how that goes, risky and one step away from betrayal. Where am I going with this ? Oh yea, temptation is everywhere, for everyone, sometimes it's just an emotional relationship at work, other times it's straight to the point at these shameless cantinas.
You are right with your feelings, because if these single fools he's with get worked up by the girls, then they will be tempted to go the nudie bar afterwards... where you can touch.
Temptation is everywhere, and it takes a strong will and experience from falling, to learn how to walk away. Sometimes we're not mature enough to walk away until we've fallen, and learned the price of falling to temptation. Best of luck.
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ReplyDoes he love you or does he not? It all comes down to respect imo. If you're only his girlfriend I would think he'd be trying to win you over instead of worrying about places like that. If you didn't want him to go to a place such as that either go together or tell him you'd rather him not. If he values you he'd respect your feelings. Basically you both need to open with each other.
ReplyWhen I was young, I loved my gf, and I respected her, but I could not resist the temptation of other hot "chics". And from what I witnessed, many young chics could not resist the temptation of "hot guys" (isn't everyone hot when they're young?), because everyone was cheating on everyone. Do people (men and women) ever grow out of cheating and hopping around from sex partner to sex partner? I'd say most do.
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