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So im making this as a way to vent my feelings and I don't know who else I can really do this about. Not sure if anyone can relate to this but I met a Filipina streamer on a streaming app and we decided we would do the long-distance relationship thing back in March. I was 32 at the time from the USA and she was 38. Everything was going very well and we seemed to have been in a pretty stable relationship. We would say "I love you" and call each other babe, she would tell me about her family and show me her 3 kids and 2 grandkids, sometimes I would stream some cartoons for them to watch when she didn't feel like dealing with them and she showed me she used to own a store but had to close it down due to covid.
She even told me about her deceased father being a police officer in the Philippines and telling me how much she cared for him and told me about how she hated her mother. In October, she told me she had severe abdominal pain and she went to the doctor and found out she had tumors in her uterus. She needed to have a Hysterectomy done but she didn't have the funds to pay for it since she wasn't working. She told me since her dad was a police officer he had some kind of life insurance policy that she could collect, but her mother was trying to claim it, so she needed my help paying to obtain some paperwork like the death certificate of her father and some other stuff. Showed me her test results and ultrasounds, so I tried to be a good boyfriend and trusted her I lent her the to get all her paperwork and money for travel expenses.
She already had money saved up from when she owned a store there and just needed about $50 from me so I gave it to her. So, after about a month of waiting on the documents she needed she managed to get her dad's money. After she got her money she kept promising to send me $10,000 of it just for being there for her. I told her several times I didn't want her money and she should send that money on her surgery, her kids, and starting her business back up. She kept insisting on giving me the money and promised after her surgery she would come to the US, I told her if she really did send me the $10,000 I would use some of it to pay off the debts I would tell her I had, do repairs on my car, and save the rest for when she came to visit.
After we argued about a like because she wouldn't take no for a answer I agreed to it, but I was almost sure she wasn't gonna send the money. She told me she would send the money first before her hysterectomy because she was afraid of something going wrong with the surgery and she might not make it, but I find out from her teenage daughter that she went in for her surgery already. I was fine with that because I told her to get her surgery done first anyway, so I waited for her to come back home while her daughter gave me updates on her status. Now, at first her daughter told me when the surgery was over that her mom was in a coma and wouldn't wake up. I'm freaking out because I told her before her surgery that she would be fine and there's nothing to worry about. Her daughter is crying and worried about her too, but I give her the "you're mom will pull through this" speech just to calm her mind.
So after about 3 days of being sleep she finally wakes up, but her daughter tells me she's awake but can't talk. Then she says the doctor told her that she should get her voice back by the following week. I'm relieved she's fine and waiting on her return so I can see her. Next week comes and she messages me telling me she's home and im happy I finally get to see her again. We talk in a WhatsApp video call and she keeps talking about sending me the $10,000 next week when she thinks she'll be able move around again, but I tell her to just focus on recovering first.
So, it's Saturday I wake up and and go to WhatsApp to message her good morning and all my messages send, but she doesn't view them, and the last seen info and her profile picture disappear telling you the person blocked you. I wasn't too worried because her daughter accidentally blocked me on WhatsApp when she was in the hospital so I would just wait till she unblocks me. 3 days pass and im still blocked, now im getting worried. We were messaging each other on Facebook Messenger before, but when she was in the hospital her daughter gave her grandkid the phone and somehow he/she deleted her Facebook profile. I remember she told me she used tiktok so I made an account in there so I can contact her, found her profile and messaged her, but never got a message back.
I tried the streaming app we met on, found her profile on there but she wasn't active on there. When I looked at her profile I noticed her name changed. My name was Bullseye and hers was Black Lady and her profile name was Black Lady❤️Bullseye, but it was changed to Black Lady❤️Berto. I remember there was another streaming app she would try to get me to use so I made an account on there and found her with the same Black Lady❤️Berto name. I left out a detail in this story, when we video chatted I asked her why did she changed her name to Black Lady❤️Berto. She claimed she didn't change it and she didn't know how it got changed.
I was just happy to talk to her again I didn't think to question it or ask who the hell Berto was, but in hindsight, I should've. Another detail Ieft out was she was still doing her streams while we were dating. She would ask me to join her streams but I rarely did because our timezones are different so I would be trying to go to sleep when she streamed, plus I just wasn't interested, but I never told her she had to stop streaming, I even encouraged her to stream sometimes because that's where her friends were. Like I mentioned, I found her profile on the other streaming app and messaged her and once she came online she viewed my profile and straight up blocked me, so I couldn't view her profile anymore, message her, or join her live streams anymore. I was concerned and really upset so I made a fake account and went into her live stream to make sure it was actually her and sure enough there she was.
I told her it was me and she immediately kicked me from her stream. I saw her friends from the original streaming app and went into one of their live streams to ask what was going on. I asked this guy named Papasam who I met before and genuinely liked him and knew he was just black lady's friend. He tells me she's engaged and my heart dropped. At first, I thought he was joking with me, but then a female friend of black lady comes into the street and says the same thing.
I get scared and start freaking out knowing I gave her money. I ask papasam if he can contact Black lady for me, but he claimed he hadn't spoken to her, so im thinking they list contact with one another some time ago. Right after I think this Black lady shows up in his stream. Now im pissed because Papasam just told me he hasn't spoken to her, he says he didn't lie and hasn't spoken to her, im like "ok whatever" rolling my eyes. Black Lady does like a dual stream thing where she can cam up in his stream so im able to see her.
She finally decides to talk to me but she tells me she's drunk, so this makes me mad because I know its gonna be difficult to talk to her when she's drunk. I ask her why'd did she ghost me after I gave her money for her surgery, she tells me " I didn't block you, something went wrong with my account and I have to recover my email, why can't you just wait!" then as far as the money I gave her she says "the $50 you gave me wasn't anything and didn't pay for my surgery so stop lying saying you paid for it". I'm boiling now because she's missing the point that my money contributed to helping her get her surgery done. At this point, im just fed up and I tell her to "talk to me when your sober", papasam making jokes talking about "send me that $50 if Black lady doesn't want it" just laughing and kinda encouraging Black Lady. Afterwards Black Lady keeps saying "jump in the box" (meaning get on webcam), but I stay silent and I don't cam up.
At this point, Papasam must have felt sorry for me and tells Black Lady to just say sorry, but Black Lady keeps saying "hop in the box" then says "aw Bullseye you still love me?" in a mocking matter. After a few seconds of silence she tells Papasam im not gonna hop in the box and she kicks me from Papasam stream. Black Lady is a bouncer in Papasam's stream and bouncers have the ability to kick another user from that stream without the streamer's permission. I'm angry and heartbroken and still wanted and explanation to why she's doing this, so the next day I create a bunch of fake accounts to ask her while she's sober what her problem is and she kept kicking me out everytime without saying a word. So 2 days later I decide to call the phone number she gave me to add her on WhatsApp.
The first time I call she says hello and makes it seem like she can't here me, but as soon I say who I am she hangs up. I do this 3 more time from my number then she blocks my number, so I borrow my brother's phone and try 2 times and I get the same results. I tried asking a few of her other friends and 1 offers to help me contact Black Lady but I don't hear from her for a while. I notice she's streaming and I go into her stream to ask her again to contact Black Lady for me, she says "this isn't my problem and has nothing to do with me" then she suggest I make a fake account to talk to her but I tell her I tried that already. I leave her stream before she decides to kick me too.
2 days later I download Google Voice to generate a burner number that I use and when she picks up I ask if she's gonna talk to me. She finally decides to tell me what's going on and explains that back in August during her streams she met this Italian dude named Berto and they flirted and he promised to marry her and move her to Italy with him. She said she took the opportunity for a better life and Berto came to the Philippines unannounced to surprise her after her surgery to stay with her till they get married. She apologized to me several times and said she still loved me and she will still send me the $10,000 once she gets her email and WhatsApp account back. I told her to keep her fucking money, I don't want it and and never did want it.
She tells me she promised she was gonna send it and she still will. I asked her why did she block me on all her social media profiles and she claimed because I was angry and talking too much and needed to calm down. I told her she blocked me before I even said anything to her and she started apologizing and sobbing telling me she was sorry and please stay with her. I asked her why did she try to clown me in Papsam's stream when she got drunk. She says she's been drinking all week because she felt bad for what she did. I explain to her how she made me feel and the emotional stress she put me through in just 1 week, I went through depression where I was in bed all day and not eating, just thinking about why this bitch stabbed me in the back.
I loved her and trusted because she trusted me and then I told her my aunt passed away the day before she started ghosting me and she added more emotional stress on me. After a week of trying to shed a tear so I could feel something else besides anger I finally just broke down and cried my eyes out, something I haven't done since my grandmother died when I was 17. She hears me crying over the phone and she keeps saying she's sorry and she starts crying too. I tell her how I couldn't stand talking her and hung up. I sat on the floor crying some more for another 2 minutes before a friend of mines call me and I hand to quickly get my composure back.
Afterwards, I just lay in bed in the dark still sobbing till I cry myself to see. The next day I go back to work after my weekend ends and im looking forward to it just to take my mind off of everything that happened. Work is fine, I don't show any sadness and put in a fake smile all although on the inside im still painting, but my co-workers had me legit laughing and I started to feel like myself again once I got back home. As of about 9 hour ago, Black Lady unblocks me on the app we met on surprisingly, and I was gonna tell her that even though she was a cheating bitch I did understand why she decided to marry him, she's seeking a better life and Berto could probably support her better than I couldve. I was shocked when she asked me to join her stream and then she mentioned that she was drunk. I'm extremely hesitant to go to her stream but my dumb ass decided to go anyway because I missed her.
As soon as I join her stream she makes me a bouncer. She ask me how am I doing, but I don't respond to anything she ask me. Then she shows me Berto who's sitting next to her eldest daughter listening to music and drinking alcohol. I didn't mention this earlier but I looked up Berto's profile on the app and his profile says he's 40 years old but it looked like he used a picture from when he was between 18-24 years old. This dude was shirtless in what look like boxer shorts with a dad bod and he had this shoulder-length wavy euro trash hair and im just thinking to myself "she cheated on me with that?" im not just saying this because of how I felt about him but he gives off douche bag vibes like he admires himself too much, idk.
But Black Lady clearly looked depressed in her stream and she sat next to him and he kissed her on the cheek, she was kinda hesitant about kissing him back, but planted one on his lips. After I saw that I got riled up again after getting over it, then Papasam joined the stream and got in the box. He looked upset about something, I don't know if he was upset at me because when I was talking to Black Lady's other friends to get some help Papasam was in one of their streams and this was when I was still upset and I called him phony for lying to me about not talking to Black Lady and I called him her ass kisser for letting her kick me from his own stream. Regardless, I felt uncomfortable being there and told her im going to bed. She said wait but I just left and messaged her good night.
So, after all that I decided to type this long ass story using my phone just so I can vent and let it all out to somebody who might understand what im going through or someone who can give me advice. If you managed to read all this with a bunch of mistypes thank you for taking time to read and and if you have opinions or you wanna share a story please do so and I'll read it. If anything else unfolds from all this I'll update things and add what happens next. Thank you again for reading or skimming through it.
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ReplyYou seem like a good dude
I would encourage you to attempt to make friends near you irl
All the best to you fellow human
ReplyThanks for that. I've had a girlfriend before irl and that didn't work out either. The perfect woman is out there for me I know, I just have to find her.
Replyyou must not trust strangers online . most of them are scam and they only get on your good side just for money
ReplyThanks for the advice and I understand what you mean, but I don't think she would've given me her actual phone number if she was trying to scam me.
ReplyI'm too young to be giving you an advice but I'll just give you my opinion regarding this. Never trust someone you meet online especially if it's a long distance relationship. You never know what that person is doing in real life even though they seem trustworthy. It's not your fault at all! I hope that lady regrets this and she feels guilty her entire life for doing you wrong and cheating you. You deserve someone better so find some woman in real who would truly love you and be faithful to you. good luck!
ReplyThank you 🙏
ReplyPlease find a woman whom you can go out on dates face to face... it's safe... Women like Black lady would be scamming many innocent guys like you through these same methods.. don't fall for that trap again.. if ever she comes back, just say NO and give a proper closure.. you'll find a number of good and understanding women in this universe... love and embrace yourself first.. take some time off and then decide if you want another relationship or not..
ReplyThank you for saying that and you're right. She tried to talk to me earlier this morning to tell me she kicked Berto out of her house because she found out he was on drugs. She begged me for a second chance, but I told her I couldn't be with her if I couldn't trust her. She understood and still promised to send the money she mentioned to me and afterward, she will drop streaming and social media in general and focus on her business
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