Boyfriend Common Sense Worries

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• Mirage · 10 months ago

  I have a few children and can say that they are all very different from one another.

  One has no common sense (like your boyfriend it seems), but she's extremely artistic and book smart. I have another one with no book smarts (she struggles with school), but people find her easy to talk to, she's very outgoing, and she's extremely street smart.

  In this, we can understand that everyone is different. I can see in due time my kids will walk different paths, have different careers, have different interests, etc.

  Your boyfriend a guy who has a way of life about him, and certain qualities about him, that you don't particularly care for. I can't imagine that, later in life, he's going to magically change (get the common sense knocked into him) or that you're just going to be ok with his lack thereof.

  At this point, it seems you feel strongly enough about this to have reached out for advice.

  I can't say that the relationship "will" or "will not" work out but, what I can say, is that you should think seriously about this.

  If these things are driving you crazy now, you have to try picturing yourself dealing with these types of issues day in and day out over the long term of a relationship.

  You can be in a store and here a baby cry from across the way on another aisle and be ok with it for a bit. In fact, you may think to yourself, "Oh, cute, it's a baby." But, after a while, you're gritting your teeth and thinking of walking away from your cart full of merchandise.

  I think we also have to understand that it'd be unlikely to get into a relationship where everything is "just perfect". Most every couple I've ever known have had issues from time to time over the years in various aspects of the relationship. Some laugh about it and move on. Others are in agony over "this" or "that" because they feel so strongly about an area of the relationship or their partner is so "off" from what one is expecting.

  I don't think I'd sweep the guy under the rug because he needed help with a job application but if you're dealing with a pile of instances like this, it may be that you two aren't very compatible. It doesn't mean that either of you is wrong, it simply means you may not be compatible.

  No matter what happens, we'll be wishing you the best possible outcome.

  Good Luck!

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  • Novni Guest · 10 months ago

    Thank you so much for your comment. I read it and thought about it thoroughly. I have this page bookmarked so I can reread this anytime. Thank you for your advice ❤️ :)

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