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Sometimes, the best kind of love you can give is the love you give to yourself. Recently, I went through a breakup after being in a long-term relationship. It started as a friendship in December 2022, became romantically official in March 2023, and ended romantically in November 2023. As I am writing this, it has been 5 days since we went our separate ways permanently. Initially, I felt upset because I lost not only a romantic partner but also a best friend. However, I am writing this now feeling better than ever, even though my ex has moved on and found someone else within a month.
I soon realized that I don't need another person's love and validation to feel loved and valued; the only person who needs to realize that is myself. My advice to anyone going through a similar situation is to love yourself before anyone else, take things slow, and be patient. Good things will come eventually.
Even if you thought you would spend the rest of your life with someone and believed they would always be there, you never know what life is going to throw at you. Try not to plan a future when you don't even know what's happening in the present. It may be difficult, but let yourself feel the pain until it doesn't hurt anymore.
Allow yourself to cry and grieve all the positive memories you experienced together. Let yourself scream and shout until your words are drowned out. Allow yourself to do these things, so you can promise yourself to get up, forget the positive memories, and laugh with others until you lose your voice screaming with joy and not pain.
Always remember, just because one person decides to let you go, whether a lover, friend, or special someone, it is not the end. You do not have to let yourself go.
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Thanks for sharing. As someone who has been in several long term relationships - your perspective is very true. I like to think "the sun sets, but it also rises".
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1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Mark 12:28-31
And Christ Jesus said the 2 greatest commandments are:
Love God first and foremost.
Love your fellow-being as you love yourself.
From following or not following these, all good or evil cascades, respectively.
Love...that powerful, invisible, intangible force that cannot be denied; even atheists live and die by it.
And since death is the only guarantee in life, Mary, Mother of Christ, intercede for us with your prayers, now, and at the hour of our death.
ReplyWow, I love this, thank you so much.
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