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Daugthers perspective.. I need advice.. In repeat... each line breaks my heart.
3 months ago · 2 · Stress need advice, +12
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My father is a great man. He just love me alot it chokes me. I love my family. I love my parents... and I love my wonderful bf. His 5 years younger than me his african american.. i am filipino. My parents are againts this coz his black and I will bring shame to our clan if ever I married this man. They want me to marry a family friends son who is a doctor or a engineer also a family friend...or even a korean tour guy they just met... just not black guy. Since my bf visited me and ask my parents blessings to date me i thougth all is good but I was wrong they said they approve to him but behind closed door they say racist stuff.. they even push me to get married move to america but I cant cox my life is here... they ask what my plans are
I have not mention anything i just say I will study law( coz my great grandpa is a lawyer his grandson also studied law but stop coz he gourded grandma and very jelous ...so my dad also wanna be a lawyer but married mom coz he got her pregnant..now he wants me to be a lawyer... im inquiring in school so i can study so ( He dont bother me anymore .... i am not interested in studying law but I say I am to him so he dont say nasty stuff about my bf!.. his like " i told you not to date that boy you will start videos*x was I wrong? " i was silent. . . His not wrong he knew coz he been peeing in my rooms window to watch as I was unaware he was observing my bf and Is intimate moment that was suppose to be only ours... im 31 already my bf 27. We been dating for 4 years... his graduating soon.. he tells me He cant give me the luxury life that I deserve.. i tell him pray to God and do your best i believe in you"..he almost died in accident but thankfully he survive.. when i told my parents they did not care.. they jsut want me to focus on the family bussiness.. cox they say all I do is be on the phone! So rediculous i dont even talk to my bf in the evening only lunch time and they wanna take that away too!. At this rate.. I will not get married. Not give them grandkids.. study law to protect myself and live with depression. I know they mean well... but it hurts when they say I am crazy.. when all I do is follow what they want me to do
And when I finally found someone I care and cherish they want me to abandon him. Breaks my heart. Please give me advice. My nose is dropping tears ... seriously Hopefully someone can give me advice how to handle this. Thank you.
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You are 31 and can very well do what you want especially taking such important decision of spending your whole life with the partner you choose for yourself. There is no point in doing something that basically alters your life for your parents happiness when they are literally not the one getting affected by it. Clear your whole brain basically and start from the bottom and see what you truly want. As for bringing shame to the family? I must say it's almost funny to even think about it since when does one being in love a shameful thing? I can see from your writing that you truly love this person so please don't make any such decision which will break both your hearts. Being with the person you love is the true luxury of life. Hope you get the happiness and stress free life you totally deserve! Fighting!! ^_^
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