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Was it okay for my manager to speak like that when I cried saying it’s not professional to cry in front of everyone?
3 months ago · 2 · Stress, +4
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So just before the team meeting he had informed that I had to do a WB within the next few days of a large topic which I have been telling I was preparing for few 2–3 weeks but I also had been informing him that there are not much article or links which I can understand to prepare on this topic and that’s taking me time - note that it was not just this topic - it’s was almost 40–50 hours of training material he had assigned me. And I am just a new joiner who joined 2 months back. He had been constantly bugging me since I joined on finishing training of 224hrs within 2 months and that I couldn’t finish and that I am slow and he has given more than enough time considering I am a lateral entry and not a college fresher. Note that this domain is completely new for me or any other person who would join this company for that matter regardless of 5/10/15 years of experience one has!! Despite that I have almost completed more than 154 hours in 2 months and have been doing cases while learning and also doing whiteboards on topics he has been assigning me and also have been listening to his taunts that I am not doing “enough” and pushing myself “enough”!!
So when he lectured me just 5 minutes before team meeting and then in team meeting, he asks me how I am and I reply that I am fine. He asked me “just fine?”. What do you expect me to reply be “all good?” no!! I said I am fine but I think you guys are Feeling that I am not doing good enough here hence I am not doing that fine and I teared up and I cried and I hung up. So he lectured the team later after I hung up saying this is not the way one should behave in a professional and environment and not cry and blah blah blah. So he’s forgetting the fact that we are just humans and also he’s forgetting the fact that he’s a manager and he should be able to understand why would an employee who is working under him would cry and he would not worry about it, and just tell to other employees about it saying That it was unprofessional of me?!! All the team members later asked me on how I was doing and they were shocked on the Manager’s response. But yeah this is what happened. What do you guys think?
I agree it’s not professional to cry but you should also try to understand my point of you that I have been explaining above and the limit of human can take properly and also the fact that not all humans Are same and some might tear up, even if they are strong.
He did call later and very diplomatically put it in a way that I am still very slow and that I took his suggestions positively!!
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I totally empathize with you and natural human emotions don’t always comply with what artificial boundaries are dictating with regards to what is considered professional or not.
I don’t care what anyone says, NO ONE likes to be criticised especially in public and especially when you’ve been trying your best.
I hope you can get out of there and away from that toxicity
ReplyHe is horrible and the sooner you find another job and leave the better.
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