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I dont want to talk with anyone so I need some advice...
3 months ago · 2 · need advice please, +1
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I cant word it out very well but I just want to say that sometimes I ignore messages, and yes I know thats bad but I feel guilty about it its just that sometimes I just dont want to talk to anyone right now. I also dont have the guts to tell to them that I dont want to talk right now because I feel like that might seem rude even though I know that ignoring is rude. I dont go online or look at their messages though. at sometimes I either inform them that Im too busy or that im not online. I just feel like I dont want to talk but I feel so forced into talking that I feel guilty. I do feel bad. I dont want to hurt them but at the same time Im afraid that i might say something that might bore them or maybe sound wrong to them when I dont have the energy to talk. I like sitting around and listening but i also want to have to talk to someone. I prefer to say it face to face but I dont know. I feel anxious both ways whether its online or offline. Im confused about what Im supposed to say or what to conversate about. I always dont like long talk when free days come like saturdays and sundays. personally I'd rather stay inside and enjoy my own company so I wont talk to anyone. mondays to fridays are always tiring you know? its like your always trying your best to stay lucky and have the worst day ever after, along with the combination of thinking everybody doesnt like you. when you talk it you dont know what to say, it doesnt seem to be loud enough or doesnt seem to be clear enough. entertaining everyone while also trying hard to fight back your social anxiety is hard to do :'). its like everytime I try to text I double think if its clear enough or not or can it be interpreted as rude or not. its like your playing a game that when you make a wrong move you think its gonna be a big deal than when you did the move you think was the right one it turns out to be the wrong one. does that even make sense? I dont know. One thing is for sure is that I hate the feeling of guilt creeping onto me but also the feeling of talking without the
right energy to talk. does anyone maybe feel the same way? or is there something Im doing wrong. anyone has any advice on how I can fix this problem? I feel like I have an avoidant attachment issue or something but I dont know :')
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ReplyI assure you that it's completely okay and normal to just want to be alone sometimes. Between social media and text messaging, we're expected to be available all of the time - and it's absolutely okay to need a break sometimes.
I would encourage you to tell the people close to you so that they know you still care about them even when you can't respond. It can just be something like "sometimes I just need to disconnect for a little while so that I can recharge. I value our friendship, so I wanted to tell you this so that you know that I still care about you even when I can't respond right away." I would encourage you to communicate this up-front, during a time that you DO feel communicative and connected. When you need to be alone, reaching out to say something like this probably isn't something that you'll want to do.
Be kind to yourself, and let yourself recharge :)
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