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So i met this guy few days back.. On Instagram.. Though we have common friends but still we met on Instagram.
He offered me to help me with my studies and everything out of nowhere and he did,tbh it was helpful.
But yesterday he was talking about sex and we also had a sex talk.. I don't know but i feel really dumb! Am I in a trap or something? Is he just helping so that he can satisfy himself at night. I told him not to but he requested me and it was also my first time. He didn't asked for nudes or anything but still.. 🙂
But tbh he is a nice guy.. I mean whatever he told me.. Was nice about him also I stalked him a bit and I think he is a good human but at the same time I have this doubt. We know each other for just a week. I am 19 and he is 22 .
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Trap, and prob not his first time.
Wait on sex please, trust me on this.
As a guy i seen this trick alot, play nice, start talking about sex, get you interested, have sex, maybe keep on the roster or simply move on and ignore.
Sadly i use to do this, alot.
Youre to young, sex is special and you should wait till a man shows you he loves you and marries you.
Its a free country and you have free choice, but sex does complicates things and makes pain even more painful.
Find someone who genuinely wants to be around you and live life with you, when y’all get married have as much sex as possible and till your hearts content but not before.
I promise you that if you dont sleep with him these things will happen:
He’ll either get mad or distant, or he’ll try even harder and be even nicer, he’ll talk about it more and bodly.
Withhold all sexual talk and contact and watch how he responds, dont give in please.
ReplyThanks I was so confused. I should not trust him.
ReplyAlso he told. He will never ask me again until and unless I ask him out for.
ReplyHe’s building a sense of trust with you, this guy has a proficient level with manipulating and sounds like he’s done this before.
Now I don’t know him but from everything I read there is no doubt.
Typically a guy either eases his way like this or flat out asks for it. Either are not okay to do.
I would strongly advise you to distance yourself and no longer associate with him, tell your friends so they can help you. Make it clear. Otherwise he might find a way for you to trust him, either by use of pity, your friends, more manipulation, intimidation, and other methods
ReplyIts absolutely a trap. Get far away from him while you can or you'll regret it. A few days in and sex is already being discussed? You'd best run. That's all that he's after.
ReplyWhy doesn't he try to get to know you as a person for many months and then if you BOTH are attracted to each other, THEN you can have the sex talk?
ReplyIdk I am fucking dumb!
ReplyYou are jot dumb, but you are young and I’m sure his offer has some tempting feeling with it. But you don’t want your first experience to be so easy, you want it EARNED by someone who valued you so much he decided to pursue and marry you to make his life.
ReplyShould I just block him? Or wait to see what he does if I don't allow him for further things.
I am so clueless whatever you told makes so much sense..
ReplyThats a hard choice because id like to say give him a chance, BUT he is asking for sex straight out of the gate and I think that isn’t something that should be done regardless how young or old someone is.
I think it’s best to block and tell your friends your decision but not to get validation from them but to make it clear where you stand. This will help you see who really cares and respects your decisions and who don’t.
You need to look at it like this, GOD loves you and made you. You shouldn’t freely or easily give yourself away. Save yourself for marriage that will also attract men of great value who will respect you even more. Aside from that, he just met you and freely talks about something personal and sacred. Your first time should be done with your husband who through effort and proof has shown you that even before he saw and touched your body, he knew you were the one for him.
If your friends ever encourage you to have sex, get drunk, or do drugs, they are not your friends because those things can hurt you or put you in dangerous positions and real friends don’t do that.
I really hope that you follow my advice but you are your own person and have the freedom to choose what you do and say.
If you ever need a friend and want advice feel me to message me on instagram @Devindadude559.
You see that true friends dont just ask for sex or anything related, don’t encourage you to get into trouble, and truly want to see you succeed and find yourself/who you are.
Please stay safe.
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