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deep down i get the jist but id appreciate some small concrete tips to raise self esteem/ avoid despair/depression
-i hate all my clothes rn lol. All my outfits are the same graphic tee + jeans combo/ I don't feel exactly "right" when i look at myself in them. Maybe its body image but I'm only really insecure about my height (im 5 foot 2 inches). also i want something more mature as i am in college now. graphic tees are just a little juvenile to me now but i dont know wear to begin with other tops. any tips to examine wardrobe or feel better in my clothes would help.
-i'm afraid of enjoying what i like. i dont know how else to describe it. i spend most of my time on social media which is fun but only for like an hour tops then my brain just shuts off. im always thinking of stuff id like to do like play video games, write, journal, edit a video etc. but i just dont. why? is it really the distraction of social media? do i dislike myself so much that my body cannot force itself to do something it knows will make me feel better? i also feel like i need a blueprint or something to enjoy things. its hard for me to create and make mistakes or listen to an artist without feeling shitty for not knowing all their work (how would i? i always set these weird unattainable goals as soon as i can. with anything.)
-whenever im with friends i just feel like im on the outside watching us. it's not as bad it used to be but i still feel self-conscious. i have great friends that enjoy my humor and perspective. i just feel like zoning out or i start to get so uncomfortable in my clothes, almost an anxiety but i wouldn't say im panicking. just hyper-aware.
yes i do see a counselor who is helping me but i guess id like some inspiration/encouragement from those who are improving their self-esteem and enjoying life.
i really want to live for others and enjoy myself and make good memories. i believe this life can be good but my vision of myself is holding me back. once i perceive ive made a mistake in something i start to feel worthless and like the whole effort was stupid to begin with. the only things i actively pursue anymore are passivities (youtube, live sports, social media). I rarely pick a movie or show to watch on my own, i'll only watch one that my family has already put on. i cant truly unwind. i hate waking up because my mind is immediately filled with noise (a tiktok sound/song, all the tasks i have to do today and the ones i didnt complete.)
-im a catholic trying to pursue my religion but even that i feel so perfectionist. i dont want to despair, i believe in a loving god, but for some reason it is hard to have peace that he loves ME despite the evidence/ things im grateful for (family, friends, work, school, health, etc.)
id appreciate any small tip. i wanna reach out to friends but i sometimes feel like a burden or that they just wont really care. again, my friends are good but i guess i use these excuses to avoid opening up. its hard.
thank you for reading, i appreciate it.
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Hello! It don't know if my advice is ideal, but I hope it helps in some way:
If you feel uncomfortable in your current everyday clothing, it would indeed be a good idea to look into your wardrobe! Spoiling yourself with things like clothing is okay, because it's something you'll be enjoying for a long time. It's also a fun idea to try out new styles. Wearing the right clothing plays a big role in self esteem, so looking into this matter is a must for confidence.
Try on your clothing and ask yourself which ones you like wearing most and what the reason could be. Do you prefer clothing that compliments you? Any favourite colours? Maybe you're not comfortable with exposing clothing.
Remember, it's okay to feel that way. Or any way at all.
But don't forget that you look stunning, that your height is stunning, that you are stunning and your soul is stunning. If you're open to learning to love yourself more, how about giving yourself a compliment? Wear your favourite clothing, and look at all the parts of yourself you love. Both inside and out, because again, it's just something you deserve.
If you're scared of succumbing to your negative emtions, dare to treat yourself to the things that make life worth living. Do something you like. Make time to spend with a loved one. Go out for a new experience.
Don't be afraid to reach out to friends if you need someone to talk to. I'm sure they love you, and I'm sure your god loves you too. Remember that in the end you are beautiful no matter what you're going trough.
I hope this helps!
Such a beautiful and thorough reply. I needed this! Thank you so much! You are so deeply appreciated!
ReplyYES I KNOW MANY AMERICAN TEENS WERE IN LOW SELF ESTEEM THESE DAYS. HOW TO RAISE THEM UP? YES. BY SUPPORTING PALESTINE. THANK YOU ALL.
ReplySounds like you have a lot going on there.
With regard to your clothing, I like to remind folks (my family and friends) that there are different outfits for different situations. I have outfits I only wear when going to town to do some shopping. I have some outfits I would only wear to a job interview or business meetings. We have clothes for our jobs and some have dress codes for school (specific colors and clothing options). I throw on some old, raggedy stuff if I'll be working in the yard.
You may be tired of the graphic tee/jean combo but I can assure you there is nothing wrong with that getup. If you're looking for more variety, though, just start buying different types of outfits for different situations. We live on a budget and when the envelope gets filled with cash and I have an opportunity to shop for clothing again, I ask myself what I need most. Most recently, for example, I got myself a black belt and, next month, I'll be getting a brown one. I have belts, of course, but they are worn and need to be replaced. On the following months, I'll be focusing on some short sleeve shirts as the seasons will be warming up.
I don't think it's necessary to disown all of the clothing you have now as it's likely there are many times you could, and would, still wear those outfits. Maybe start by slowly adding new styles to your wardrobe and, each time you add an item, allow yourself to get rid of something you no longer need or want. If those items you're getting rid of are still in great shape, maybe you could sell them, give them to a friend, or donate them elsewhere.
It sounds, as well, as if you're looking for a way to fill your free time and possibly move way from social media. It may be nice to think about things you enjoy doing, those that really make you happy, and try spending a little time on some of those each day. I recently wrapped up a personal project that took 10 months of my free time (a record by far for me). Now that the project is complete and I've got my time back, I find myself getting back into things I used to enjoy doing - reading books, playing video games, and creating art. I'm not very good at the latter two but they are still fun to me so I push on.
Overall, it sounds like you have a lot weighing you down. I might recommend making a list of all that is bothering you. This could be done with paper and pen/pencil but would likely be easier on a digital device. I would list all of the things, even the small ones, one on top of the other. When you finish, review the list and mark off any items you have absolutely no control over. From those that are left, put them in order of importance. The ones that frustrate you the most should be at the top of the list and the lesser of the group should be at the bottom.
Then start working on these but only focus on one at a time. Start with that first one. What can you do to resolve this issue or get it off your back? If you hit a waiting period (I had to order an item and now waiting for it to come in. OR I sent this person a message and I'm now awaiting a response. ETC.) If you're waiting, you can move on to the next item in the list.
Slowly, over time, you'll seem them melt away. Without this list, you'll walk around with all of them haunting you and it's so much weight on your shoulders and difficult to deal with mentally. By making a list, you can focus on one or two at a time which is a much more realistic task.
No matter what happens, we're all wishing you the best of this situation.
Good Luck!
ReplyYou are so kind! Your words are healing!
ReplyCongratulations on finishing your project. Youve given some great advice, especially about the list!
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