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Literally, every time I've given an interested guy my number or any other way of contacting me, I had it in my mind to move on as quickly as possible.
A long time ago, I gave a guy my number and he was interested in me, I also gave him my discord he never got around to contacting me. We saw each other at work every day and he would never say anything but look interested. Eventually, I just moved on and vowed next time to start the process after giving contacts.
Fast forward a couple years.
A new guy has been crushing on me at my new work and I've slowly become interested in him (I had reservations given past instances). I just gave him my number through a friend and now I'm anticipating rejection and ghosting yet again. Remembering my vow, I started the process of burning down my feelings for him.
But now I feel bad and guilty for even thinking like this... yet I can't live my life waiting like a hopeful dog who doesn't realize its owner has abandoned it.
I have so many things to do... yet there was a glimmer of hope that we could text and get to know each other.
What the hell is wrong with me? Why did I ever think any guy would like me? Maybe he just wanted attention and an ego boost? Maybe it was a joke or read things wrong?
Doesn't matter... I'm so out. I'm done. I'm tired of having feelings to hurt.
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Darling men are afraid of rejection too. They too don’t want their hearts broken. When you love, love. Regardless of what the other feels for you, that is when you fall in love. Otherwise, guard that precious heart and mind of yours. You are a gem! So very precious and beautiful. I’m proud of you for taking care of your valuable self!
ReplyI'm not valuable at all... I'm just a waste of existence and I just spend my days waiting to die.
ReplyRelatable. Waiting on a guy to make a move after he shows interested is exhausting. Mine won't even look at me anymore. Hard to not feel like you were used to pass the time, or just for fun. Hang tight. The right guy will actually make a move without being afraid.
ReplyThank you for your words. I appreciate you very much! ❤️
ReplyI dunno how hot of a take this is, but I'm female and I'm tired of girls just waiting around. I really think women should learn to initiate too. This gendered expectation is silly, when all of us humans can't read each other's minds, how all of us have fears, how we could've been covering for each other's flaws instead of insisting on gendered expectations. That being, women's gendered expectation is to just sit back and be passive, let men do all the work. Which is precisely the reason men get to leare more of the necessary life skills while women become helpless babies, making people rightfully think "yea that's why men are higher value".
Like I dunno, I'm really sorry that you feel sad, but honestly also, isn't it like 'duh that you're gonna be sad & powerless when you don't give yourself the agency to initiate & take control?
You can't truly know about whether he likes you or nah without interacting. Don't assume things & let yourself be shrouded in all the "maybe"'s, the imaginaries. Clear rejection/acceptance is better than being forever stuck in uncertainties & the regret of never knowing.
Best wishes.
ReplyI'm sorry, but I think you misread my post on purpose. I made all the moves... yet you're blaming me?
ReplyWorst of all it feels like anything I do amounts to nothing at all...
ReplyCongratulations on treating me like garbage because now I'm crying my eyes out over your insensitive comment.
ReplyIf I were "misreading on purpose" and wanted to "treat you like garbage" I would've said things that are short & showed no effort of understanding you like "just message him 4head, useless bitch" or something like that. Bullies wouldn't even care to type paragraphs to treat someone like garbage.
So if you still wanna engage with the discussion (I understand if you don't want to), I'd like to know what part did I misunderstand? Because what I understood was that you've given your number, and you wait for him to message first. That's why I thought why don't you message him instead.
Replyyeah it's tiring, I get it. And I've given up on this. At least I gave him a pretty clear green light, but maybe it's like you said, he just wants attention? That's why I don't mind it too much now. It's okay, you're not alone sweetheart...
Reply"If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging" -Arthur Morgan
If you don't think people like you then your mind is just tricking you and making it seem that way, people all around you love you, and never and I mean never, let those horrible thoughts cloud your visions of people. hope you're ok :D <3
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