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When you ask any person for advice, for instance: you want to know the most effective way to become successful. Most people will give you the same advice and that is; BE CONFIDENT. Confidence is something that I've never fully experienced in my life. I'm always full of doubts. I find it really funny when people tell us to be confident without mentioning the exact ways or methods to be confident. As for me, I think confidence is a kind of skill that needs to be build up through miniscule changes and perseverance. If you are not born with it , you have to harness this skill.
Some people don't even have to work on this skill that much. They just learn to be confident through their experiences or other unconventional situations and circumstances. Confidence is an invisible wand which creates magic once you properly know how to use it. The words that I say to empower myself when I'm afraid to do something are "Let's see what happens. It's just one of those bad days. It won't last long".
And then I again say "Calm down and face it . I wil be alright." And I say it again and again untill I become relaxed. These words doesn't make me CONFIDENT but it still somehow manages to overcome the fear. And Eventually, I believe it will make me strong and confident.
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Confidence is not easy, you're right. Your empowering mantras are a fantastic start. To me, confidence is not equal to success. I think that idea is built on a mediatised lie that degrades the average person into feeling lesser. In my opinion, you do not have to be confident to be successful, though it does help.
The truth is, there are no methods or equations to become more confident. Confidence is gained through the experience of change and how well you can adapt to it. Confidence is believing that you are capable, no matter what. Capable of love, of life, of change and responsibility. That explains why teenagers usually lack confidence in themselves, as they're experiencing everything for the first time.
Some people were born with unconditional love that provided an added skin of self-confidence to their character. But nobody is born with confidence. So, is it easy to be confident for the non-rich and non-famous? Yes, eventually. All you have to do to build confidence is learn to live with yourself.
ReplyFor me, confidence doesn't necessarily bring you success, but it does help in some ways. Especially in loving yourself, in believing that you are able to achieve whatever you put your heart and mind into. I am not sure for others, but for me, if you really want to have confidence, whether it'd be on anything, start by talking positively about yourself. Think of yourself as someone who has flaws, but is willing to make an improvement. Only yourself will be your worst enemy. Just try to take it one step at a time and just focus on how you have improved from the day you were before, you can also try not to keep track of it as sometimes you might get frustrated when you think there is no progress at all. Also, try to build some self-love, try to accept that as a human, you are able to commit mistakes. What is important is that we try to bounce back and learn from it. Try not to get affected too much of what other people will think of you, and also, don't try to compare yourself to others, your progress and pacing is different from them because like plants, we each have different factors that influences our growth. I am not sure, but you can try to formulate what best works for you, as for me, these are what I have been doing to achieve confidence. Hope this helps :))
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