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I always feel left out by my friends. maybe I'm being dramatic or actually they are leaving me out. I can't point out which one is it. So please let me know.
As I said my friends tend to leave me out unless they need me. This particular friend I'm friends with for 6 years. Let's call her Sia. we hang out only when we have class day. normally we talk a lot in text or call. I see her as my best friend. But I know she doesn't feel the same. because she has 1 best friend( let's call her Nisa) whom she act very differently. You know it's different by her behavior. it's not like I hate it But sometimes I don't like it because Sia wants to involve Nisa to our academic program which is solely for the students. It's not only me but also my other friends who doesn't like it. Since our graduation I didn't get a chance to meet with Sia as she leaves far away. So I asked since there is a big fair going for a month in our city let's go there. She said she is in short of money. I get that. Then I asked other day if she wants to go out where you won't need much money other than transportation fare. Sia said no. She would like to stay home and be a good housewife(she's married) this year. So I didn't say anything. She would suggest me people I should go with though she knows I'm not much comfortable with them. But suddenly today She gave pictures of her and Nisa going to the same fare I wanted to go with her. when I asked she said as I don't like to hang out with Nisa , she didn't told me. She called me but I cut her phone as i know I'll end up hurting more. I don't have issues with her spending time with Nisa. She is a free person . She can spend time with anyone she wants. But what hurts me that if you don't want to go out with me you can tell me on my face rather than giving this lame excuses. It broke my heart. So did I over react?
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You didn't overreact. You're entitled to feel this way considering that she'd gone to the fair with Nisa. Unfortunately, it seems like Sia is distancing herself from you. I could be wrong, so just to confirm, I think you should ask Sia if she's still interested in being your friend or at least express your feelings of doubt to her. Perhaps ask why she went to the fair with Nisa.
I also believe you should branch out and try to meet other friends. Mutual friendships shouldn't make you feel this way. I hope you'll meet better, kinder, more interactive friends who are willing to tell you the truth, as well as maintain your friendship. Good luck!
ReplyI agree with the oracle reply and unfortunately this is a very common scenario, if used to happen to me often so I understand why you feel hurt.
It’s just my opinion but for what it’s worth, ppl like that aren’t real friends
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