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What the hell, is it me? Maybe it's me. I feel like I am going crazy at this point. Little back story. My nephew (husbands side) and his father haven't spoke in 5 years and my nephew doesn't care to. My husband for some reason thinks it is his role and responsibility to get them back together. I get it. I do. But when the Nephew moves states away and his dad sends gifts, money , he will send it back regardless if he needed it or not. In my opinion, it's time to stay out of it. So I suggested he just stay in his lane and let them figure it out themselves. Well he didn't.
Few years later, my nephew and his family move back, only told us, and not anyone else. (Well you know he thought it was his duty and he told) Well at this point my marriage was/is really rocky, and they had invited us to go out on the boat so we did. This man was acting like we were in the best marriage and we were doing great. I thought I was in the twilight zone. This man hadn't touched, held my hand, slept in the bed, much less had sex with me in two years.
The next day I had to work. They had invited us over for a grill out and I was tired and had to open really early the next moring so I passed, but told the family to go ahead and have a good time. I wanted the girls to spend time with their cousins and swim, you know have some fun. I made plans with my Niece to have lunch after work the next day after I got off of work.
The next day at work, it was an hour before I got off and I get a call from my husband telling me that my nephew is going to have lunch with his father and that he is going to go as well. I was quite shocked because I knew how angry that my nephew was but was glad that they were taking this step. Then I get a text from his wife saying that he wanted her to go with him that she was so sorry that she had to pass on our lunch plans and would make it up to me. Something didn't sit right.
I get off of work and go home and go about my business. I get a phone call from my niece and she sounded so down. We talked about the lunch and that how he didn't really want to go and that he only went for my husband.
I was confused. I said, "why would he only go because of my husband. " She said, I am so sorry. We didn't know" I am really confused at this point. I said, " what the hell are you talking about?" She said, about him being sick. ( I didn't quote it because I didn't use the name) I laughed, "yeah, sick in the head" thinking we were joking around.
She said, "He said that you knew, maybe I shouldn't have said anything."
So, he told my nephew that he had cancer at the grill out and that he had a year to live and that he was going to start doing some traveling. His dying wish was for him to talk to his dad. My nephew was up crying all night. They were going to cash in their savings so he could travel with my husband until they talked to me and I told them the truth.
My husband said he never told them that. Then said he called them and straightened out. He actually called and told them that I didn't want anyone to know and that is why I told them that.
Fast forward a little more, they are mad at him for it and he is mad at me. They want to still be around me and the kids. So I still went to birthday parties and so on. Husband was mad about it and said that I chose sides.
Fast forward a couple weeks later, he still denying he said it but said he is his brothers keeper and did what he had to do. ??? admission/denial?
Had to check his email about the solar panels and he had an email about his subscription running out to an only fan, so naturally I checked it out. He had an account, and was suscribed to several, some had expired. I logged in by using his email (auto fill) took screen shots, because I knew he would deny. Iasked and he of course did as I expected and I sent him the screen shots. He went ballistic. He came home and went crazy called me everything he could think of. Told me he didn't want me anymore, he didn't want to take me around his friends because I embarrass him. Yeah, that broke me bad for some reason. More than the strip club incident.
Several months later they start speaking a little but not like before.
This week and today. They were going a vacation, and asked if I would watch their bearded dragon. (well my daughter who wanted one and got scared and I had to take it out of her room and I was the one terrified of them but fell in love btw) Not a problem. I didn't say anything to anyone because 1.) my daughter would asked 5million questions a day until the day. 2) I don't want the drama, you know.
When the day comes I let everyone know. I say hey we are going to be watching Lovely while they go on vacation. Everything was fine.
They come back and yesterday afternoon, and they have been living with her dad until they find a house of their own. ( her barely stays there.) He was mad (drinking) and told them to leave and they had to be out that day. My nephew called and told me what was going on and asked if he could leave lovely a little longer and they would come later. I said no problem. They didn't get everything moved so I said just let her stay the night. He asked if he could leave his truck at my house so he could drive the RV and she could drive the other car to help make the move. I said sure.
Again, This was not my story to tell my husband because I know exactly what he would do, and I didn't know if that is what my nephew would have wanted. You know? Am I wrong? I didn't lie to him.
My husband wakes me up after about ( me getting 3 hours of sleep), not so happily and asks why the truck was here and I said they found a place to live and were moving and he asked to leave it here for the night and will be here in a little while to get it. He said where, why, you know more than you are telling me. I said why are you up so early lay back down and started to tickle his back and he kept trying to question me. He got furious.
He was telling that it didn't make sense and I am lying to him. He started yelling. He had the back door open and I know for sure the neighbors could hear him. I said can you stop yelling at me? He proceeds to call me a Bitch. I said really? He said yeah that bothers you and it bothers me when you tell me that I am yelling, then he proceeds to talk in a baby voice and asks me if he needs to talk to me like this? That made me so mad. So I said how you talk to your brother because your his little bitch? ( I usually don't say things like that but I have left a lot of things out that he has said to me) He told me to get out, to go live with my nephew because I chose their side. He told me to get my shit and get out of his house. he then texts and told me to get his $300 for the part of a cruise that he was going to take with me. ( he said it wasn't for me it was for the sights) I told him like he told me when I told him to give me back the $500 he owes me. NO He then tells me that ummm he has paid more than that back, by my room and board. Yep my room and board.
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