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I've written here in the past about my younger sister who I knew would have a disastrous and unhappy relationship with a guy. From the very start, the red flags were very clear and now, they are out in the open. I've researched and ask for advice about this situation, hundreds of times, to help my sister. Those advices about teenage romantic relationships told me that I should give my sister the freedom to choose and make decisions on her own. That this is her life and if she does make the wrong decisions she'll learn from it. But when will she truly learn? I together with my parents gave them all the support they can get. My parents were already against us being part of a romantic relationship at such a young age. They believe that our studies should be prioritized because they care about our future. But she was given that chance to be in a relationship with this jerk to the point where every time they fight, our whole family endures it too. She was given the freedom to be with this guy but that freedom led her to disrespect our parents. Getting angry at us for no reason, coming home late every night, and not even talking about anything in her life. My parents still continued to understand her, love her, and forgive her even though they were in pain. Gossips also started to surround us, and you could say that my parents have a good reputation, not because we're rich or whatever, they are just viewed as good people who live in our neighborhood. But that very reputation slowly decays with each passing time as the people around us start to wonder, how can these parents raise a children like that? And we could care less about the gossip because there were much bigger problems to solve in this house but I just truly hate it. How can people so swiftly judge the entire situation without knowing the full context? Sometimes our house is filled with shouts and cries and sometimes it's quiet, wholesome even. But every time she fights with that so called boy friend of hers, we also experience her rage as well. We have to adjust our moods and be so patient. And I was not like my parents, I wanted badly to be angry at her, to tell her she's the problem. She's ruining her life and she's ruining ours as well. I wanted to be selfish, to be mad, and to tell her all the things that should be said cause I am so tired living this life. I am so tired of lying and pretending that everything in this family is fine. Is this really just guidance and understanding? Or is she being tolerated? I have to suppress these feelings and pure anger and sometimes I don't want to hide anymore. But it makes me so afraid because what would happen if I do let these all out. Then one day, she opened up to me, we were still close and we sometimes open up to each other about things. And then she told me, that the guy was the reason for the bruise on her arm and so I was absolutely alarmed. We talked about it and told her that they should break up, that this relationship they have is not love anymore and that she is still so young. She agreed. We planned it but she never did. She was blinded by the guy's gifts, and his affections and acting like he cares about her. But no, he's obsessed with her. He thinks her owns her. And so I had to do something, I had to tell my parents and do think of some legal action to the matter such as reporting him. But how would my parents react? Specifically my father? What will happen once he knows he's beloved daughter is being physically abused by a boy? A teenager? But should I keep silent? When this could only be the start of this jerk's beatings. You know what? I would die for my sister, if that means peace in this family. I wish I could just confront the guy and I would take his beatings too, if that means he's getting more punishment after this. Or better yet kill me, he can kill me so he'll be labeled as a murderer and get the punishment he deserves and I could finally leave this world.
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