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I’m a 20 year old guy and have had a very feminine build my whole life. I’m not very tall, I look very young, and I have a very slim build other than my hips. No matter my weight my butt is always tough for me to hide, and people have pointed it out before. It’s really so “girlish” that it bothers me to look at. When I look in the mirror I see a woman's body and I don’t know how to either change it or come to terms with it. I try to cope by telling my self that it’s not a bad thing, It doesn't make me unattractive. But I just always feel so anxious about wearing lighter clothing, and I feel embarrassed that every other guy is stronger and more masculine than me when I’m around them. I’ve also tried to embrace the look and grow my hair out but that doesn't make me happy either. I very often get mistaken for a woman in public even with short hair, my ex girlfriend even considered herself lesbian before and during our pretty long relationship. And it’s not like we broke up because she was more interested in actual women or anything; she seriously saw me as so girly that it was attractive to her. Because of that I felt sort of embarrassed, her intimate ideas sometimes involved treating me as such and I have no idea how to feel about that. I just wish I could feel like a normal guy I don’t know what to do.
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Idk. I mean I’m also a 20 year old guy, and I’ve never really been muscular in general. But something I noticed looking at other guys a bit, is some guys are muscular, but 90% of the time, when a guy has wider arms than me, which is probably like 70% of guys, it’s usually actually that they’re just a little bit fat. But idk, just in general, all I have to say about feeling like you look “feminine” so what? If you look like a girl, that’s not inherently good or bad, it just is. It’s not like you did something wrong to look a certain way and if a person reacts to you like you did, they probably don’t have a great moral character if they’re judging you for your looks in the first place.
ReplyThat don't matter that people what think about us ,,,,,,,,so do that what you wanna to do
ReplyDon't think over men.,,,.....
ReplyRock it, sweetheart, be what vibes with your heart!
ReplyI know the feeling, dissatisfaction with our body. Eventually I learned that the body is nothing more than a vessel for doing good or bad. And maybe you're not designed to be an NBA or NFL pro player, you still most definitely have the ability to positively impact people's lives with creativity or intellectual accomplishments, volunteerism, community improvement projects, etc. I hope this helps.
Courtesy notice: the following includes a reference to a book that contains writings over 2000 years old which are mostly parables about human nature, both vile human nature as well as moral human nature, parables that are meant to teach us to learn and grow, including the teachings of Christ Jesus. No religion required, and better yet: no public displays of devotion required, although the former and latter are admirable if practiced freely out of one's own free will and without the threat of being beheaded. Some bullies will label this "trolling", so "change the channel" now if of no interest to you.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Mark 12:28-31
And Christ Jesus said the 2 greatest commandments are:
Love God first and foremost.
Love your fellow-being as you love yourself.
From following or not following these, all good or evil cascades, respectively.
Love...that powerful, invisible, intangible force that cannot be denied; even atheists live and die by it.
Mary, Mother of Christ, intercede for us with your prayers, now, and always.
And after our worst deeds - never forget God forgives us when we repent through Christ Jesus, when we change our minds and our actions.
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