Called out Wife

Married 14 years and I finally called her out. I told her where I stood which is that this rough patch is something we can work through. I've been vocal about my needs, including intimacy. It's been over a year since we did anything and before that it was rare. She asked if I knew where she stood. I said somewhere between we can wait until the kids are 18 and I want a divorce next month. She didn't correct it and that hurt the most. She said she honestly goes back and forth because she sees the good husband I am but also finds part of me annoying and it's been the same things. That part is on me. I told her I'm tired of living on this edge of divorce and that it's not fair to me and definitely it fair to her. I still want her and to be with her and don't eanr divorce, but she needs to make a choice and stick to it. I told her I'd work on me while she decides and be more in tune, off my phone, off video games, circle back to things she's said before. I asked her to be open to me emotionally during this time and take that risk instead of walling me off like it's been for a bit. She is a great person. I just need to get this off my chest since I don't have any friends I can talk about this with.