Why I regret leaving the perfect woman

7 years ago · 51

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She was the love of my life. Selfless, kind, open, and unique. I honestly think I have never met a woman like her before, nor will I ever again.

When I first met her I was young, in my early 20's, and dating someone else. It wasn't just her smile, pale skin, and bright red hair that caught my attention. It was everything. She had a magnetic personality that just drew you to her. But I was scared, I had comever to believe that all girls were the same. That they'd be kind and sweet, even say they liked the same things you did. Till they had you. My girlfriend and I constantly fought, and had nothing in common. But I assumed that dating my current girlfriend was easier than trying to start something new.

We worked together for the next 3 years and I grew to like her more and more. It wasn't until a year of knowing her that I realized she wasn't lying when she said she loved video games, anime, comics, and cosplay. She was the kind of genuine person who was unapologetic about who she was and truly loved herself. It was in this time that my girlfriend decided to move to New York without telling me and expected me to go with her. I had to make a choice her or the woman I had come to admire so much. I chose to stay.

Dating her wasn't like dating my exes. She loved the same things I loved, from movies to music. Life with her was fun. She never pushed me, or made me feel like less than I was. I loved coming home to her smiling happy face. She was kind and compassionate, she took care of me like no one had. Being with her was amazing, but I lost sight of that.

It was a year after I asked her to marry me that I met the new girl. She was young, only 25 and I was 33. Where my current girlfriend was and hourglass and pale the new girl was petite, tan, and blonde. They were opposites, how opposite I had yet to learn. I started hanging out with the new girl after work. A few drinks at the bar a few times a week. She was fun, and I was extremely attracted to her. I began to feel trapped and resentful of my relationship. We were trying to buy a house at the time. She was ready to move forward and get married, and I wasn't. I was resentful that she had been pretty much single from when she was 21 to 25 when we got together. I was jealous that she had been with more people than me and had a fun, carefree 20's. I resented her for it. I pushed her away. Finally leaving her for the new girl.

When I left she was in tears. This strong, beautiful woman whom I had never seen cry was in tears. She asked me not to leave and told me we could fix any problems we had. I told her that she had been the perfect girlfriend, that nothing she had done had made me leave. How could I fix the problem when I was the problem? When I left she told me that if I came back she might not be there. That someone might snatched her up. She wasn't wrong.

It took two months of dating the new girl for her to show her true colors. I had forgotten something I had known in my early 20's, that some girls lie about who they are. We ended up having nothing in common except for our job. We had moved in together out of convenience. My ex had kept our apartment and I didn't want to live with my parents at 33. She didn't like going out to bars anymore, she didn't want to play video games even though that's how she had enticed me. She had horrible taste in TV shows and insisted we only watch what she wanted to watch. If I didn't spend all my time with her she got angry and jelous. We argued constantly. At this time I knew I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I thought of my ex every day. I had left her because I felt trapped, like I was losing my youth. Now dating a girl 7 years younger than her I was more trapped than I had ever been.

It was at this time my ex started dating someone new. He was a casual friend we had both met through friends. He was the kind of guy everyone loves outgoing & charismatic. I hated him. He had the opposite personality I had. I saw their pictures together at events we used to go to. They were together at comicon's, cosplay events, and costume parties. She was there with that smiling happy face I had always loved, and it broke my heart. Why had I been such a fool? I had always loved her. I was such a fool.

How many times had she loved me without question. She had lifted me up when I couldn't do the same. She stayed with me when I lost my job. When I was depressed. When I drank too much. She gave me everything and I couldn't give back what she gave me.

Not surprisingly the relationship I had left the love of my life for ended. My kind strong ex never took me back. If you're thinking of leaving a wonderful woman for someone new think twice about it before you do. You may think the new girl is fun and exciting but she'll never be like the woman you left for her. And like me you may regret it for the rest of your life.

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Novni Guest · 7 years ago
I like this a lot!
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Novni Guest · 7 years ago
So sad .. I'm leaving the man I truly love for we have changed 😞
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Novni Guest · 7 years ago
Have you finally found someone else?
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Novni Guest · 7 years ago
damn. I just hope my ex can accept me back
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
Well good luck finding someone else and hopefully that new someone else won't end up leaving you for a 25 year old male.
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
God, life goes on.
You won’t regret it forever. Been there worn the t-shirt. There will be someone different. Suitable for you. Life that is different suitable for you. It never stays the same all the time.
Life goes forward, things change, people change, situations change, you change. Everything goes in a state of change. Everyone stop worrying. It is to be a blip on everyone’s timeline.
You’ll all end up else we’re better. Yeah she may of been the love of your life and the only one for you.... but there is also billions of people on the planet that will be better suited to and them to you. Just because you met your soulmate once does not mean you never met another again.
Everyone just has to take baby steps each day until something good and honest comes out way again. And when it does. Everything will be just a piece of history.
Trust me. Does not matter if you cheated, they cheated, you lost them to your own fault or they lost you....
Life goes forward and our soul is telling us which way to go. Everyone use there intuition not there heads or anything else. Intuition........
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- Novni Guest · 6 years ago
  Sometimes you just find that perfect person and didn't realize it until it was too late. Then you live a life of regret and what ifs. How are you supposed to move on from somebody who set the bar at the very top, everything else will feel like settling and not right?
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
Fuck!
This hit me hard. This is literally a mirrored story of my life. My wife of 2 years has been going through some bad time, which affected many aspects of our lives.
Right now I’m seeing someone else. Pretty much what you described. She loves smoking, Marvel comics, videogames. She loves traveling just as I do. And I’m slowly leaving my woman for this new girl. Younger, more energetic, more vibrant.
Thank you for this text. I’m definitely going to use it for all my decisions, whatever they might be. Thanks a lot.
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- Novni Guest · 3 years ago
  i hope you didnt leave your wife i hope you learned something from this guy
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
I'm about to cry. You really touched my heart.
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
Where is the love your life now?
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
Hi, I feel miserable, betrayed hence the reason why I’m writing here. It’s a long essay about how I feel at the moment but I’d appreciate if you could read it as I need supports - even I don’t know you. What you did to your ex girlfriend is what my ex boyfriend to me, he likes his colleague.
We were together for two years and five months, our relationship was nice - no violence and lovely. We fought like other couples too but we never go to bed without solving it - in fact we fought rarely.
We always believed we were a team. All those times I knew I was his no. 1 priority. He texted, he called, he spent time with me, he made efforts to be with me as much I did for him. We went holidays together, we did tour to cities outside London. I met his parents and family. His niece loves me, such a cute girl. He introduced me to his friends who we hang out together.
I was always there when he needed me, when he feel depressed and upset. He never like his job field. Before his contract ended in January this year, he earned a lot that’s why he can save money for the deposit to buy a flat in London. For that reason, he didn’t mind working in this field.
From mid-2016 to mid-2017, we met two weekends per month by staying in the hotel. That was how much we wanted to spend time together. We can’t spend time together at his parents’ place (as he was living with them to save money for the flat deposit) and my flatmate isn’t cool with people sleeping over.
Oh dear, I always think that I’m impatience kind of person but being with him, I feel I have high level of tolerance and patience. The stress of looking for a flat to buy for a year, helping him from legal side to buy a flat from beginning to his name is registered as the owner on the title deeds, decorating his flat together from main door to all areas together to make it cosy as much as possible and yes, it turned out to be such a lovely cosy flat. I was there for him in every single steps.
He admitted that I brought positive changes in his life. He never thought that he will buy a flat. He will never thought that he will do this/that if not without me.
He told me that I was the best, amazing and wonderful girlfriend he ever had. I was also the longest relationship he ever had too. He felt lucky and felt appreciated to have me as his girlfriend who worked hard in the relationship. No one ever treated him like I did. He was also grateful for having me in his life.
But all turned sour a week after Valentine’s Day this year. Despite to the fact that he bought me flowers on Valentine’s Day, a week after that he said he was not in love with me.
He feel sad because he acknowledged that he cares deeply about me and that he feels lucky of having me in his life as his girlfriend. He said he has stopped being in love with since last year, even before my birthday last year. So I was shocked. This means from my birthday last year till February this year through Christmas and New Year, all those three words uttered by him was false.
I said I understand. We believed in telling how we feel, our irritation towards each other and we prefer to discuss rather than assuming things, so we discussed.
We felt at that time the sparks gone because after he bought the flat last year, we were very busy decorating it together, from painting the wall, putting the wallpaper, carpets, furnitures. We realised that we didn’t go out, no dates, no movies, we became sloppy and lazy by spending weekends at his flat since he moved in for six months.
So we agreed to make it worked - we went out for dates, we visited museums, and we were not lazy anymore.
I lost weight too and I went for a short weekend trip in France on my own and he was impressed with my independence.
I told him I’ll not seeking his assurance by asking “do you love me?” all the times. I also said only say I love you if you meant it. No pressures.
All went well - in fact he said that his feeling was growing in March/April and he did say he loves me few times from March till July this year. I said again don’t say it if you don’t mean it. He said he really meant it.
Since his contract ended in January, he was unemployed till he got a new job in May. Lesser pay, and he’s having difficult to adapt. He used to be self employed for three years where he earned good money at his age. He can’t adapt to the new job. He used to work for himself with his own schedules and procedures. So he becomes stressful with this new job as he has to commute like most of us to work and work according to the internal procedures of the new job.
With his new job, his salary was cut into half and after paying all bills, he will only has about 100 surplus per month. He knew for a fact that I was always there for him. I never asked him to buy me anything. He knew that. Even with lesser salary, i was still there supporting him morally. I was worried because this new job is really affecting him, and I want him to know I’m not walking away.
In fact when he stressed out about work, when I came over he hugged me and said he feel good that I’m here. I took his stresses out of his system just being there with him.
He has no other friends except friends from his childhood and previous office job of five years ago.
So when he started at this new job he got excited he met new people of different backgrounds till he met this girl, A.
I found out about A when one day I texted him if he wants to watch a film tonight (Tuesday’s night). He said no, someone asked him to go to this an event about crimes (we like to watch documentary on Netflix about crimes - A likes it too) because another colleague at work bailed out. So I asked who was this person. He said “she’s a girl but don’t worry, she’s not pretty.” I said it feels weird for her to ask you to go to this event just with her unless you’re close with her. I said I’m not comfortable with this as I don’t know her. So he cancelled on A and said to me thanks for ruining my evening.
Since that day, I feel that A has feeling for him - it’s just weird I got this feeling. So they talked the next day where A said “I understand why your girlfriend being insecure obviously some trust issues, I’ve been there so I know.” Sadly he replied to her - the way he replied to her...he wasn’t defending me when A said like that. They talked again until I found out. I told him to delete and block her on FB.
A knew he has a girlfriend but I just feel she’s pursuing him. So he did block her. I admitted it wasn’t reasonable for me to ask him to delete and block her... I was angry at him because I told him to avoid her as she has an agenda I can feel it. In the end he stonewalls her.
We went to a beach holiday last month - had wonderful time. He said I love you few times and after we got back he said to me that he agreed that A was playing innocent and victim. So he said he’s not going to deal with her anymore. He agrees that A has an intention on him.
Two weeks after back from holiday, we argued - he said I don’t want to do this anymore. I wanted to break up with you. I wanted to break up with you next week but because we argued just now I said it.
I broke down I wasn’t expecting this, after all I thought his feeling was growing again and we had good holiday. He said the holiday was terrible he wasn’t happy at all. I felt like a fool because he was all loving, attentive as usual and was affectionate during the holiday. I said sex was getting better. He said no. I begged I cried non-stop, yes all those negative ugly things that I shouldn’t have done. It was embarrassing but there was nothing I can do. I packed all my stuffs I called Uber and cried.
The next day I texted him do you still need a two weeks break to re-evaluate. He said yes because he felt empty and heartbroken after I left but he needed two weeks to live without me to figure things out and space was best for that. I gave him the space.
After the break ended, I met him last Friday and I told him to hear me out of what I feel went wrong in the relationship that causing him to lost attraction to me therefore he is not in love with me.
I told him I acknowledged my neediness. I told him I was needy and insecure because I gained weight. I feel paranoid about A because she’s slimmer and he used to tell me that “if you lost weight, we would have more sex” few times.
I told him that I was insecure because when he said he lost attraction to me physically and emotionally because I now have belly and fat.
I was 60kg from 2016 till three weeks ago but when I met him last Friday I’m 56.5kg. I wanted to feel confidence again and also to show that I’m doing my diet right and discipline about it. He said he was annoyed when I said okay today i will diet for real but ended up not dieting and said will do it tomorrow. So I said to him this process will be slow but I’m losing weight now, it’s not just talk it’s taking action now. Of course I know physical attraction isn’t the main problem here. I’m working on my negative traits as well as mentioned before and asking for another chance. Even though we communicated about how feeling during the course of relationship, we never talked about those negative traits. If it’s not working after few months, fine to break up at least we tried it to repair it.
He said no, he feel that this is not right. He told me that he never attracted to me from beginning but because I gave him the good feeling and we are compatible as we like 99% of the same things so he went along in the relationship with me for two years plus.
Finally, he said to me that from beginning he told himself that this relationship with me will not become a long term relationship and he never properly love me. Those I love you and growing feeling he felt for me were the feeling of I care about you deeply.
So I agreed to break up as I feel no point to convince him. Plus he told me during the two weeks break he didn’t miss me and he CHOOSE not to think about me. He went out with his friend for drinking. He removed all our pictures together from his bedside table and wall of his flat. He said although he agreed that I was the best girlfriend who knows him very much but it’s not enough because he is not attracted and he is not in love with me.
He also said he’s not happy with his life in general, his job and for a three years straight he was in relationships. One year with the girl before me where they broke up because he didn’t feel in love with her. Two years plus with me also with the same reason. So he said he wants to focus on himself, fix his life on his own and refuses to be in any relationship including with me.
I left I cried to my Uber driver, bless him such a nice guy.
Today, I don’t know why but I checked A’s instagram and she posted a view from my ex boyfriend’s balcony last night... a day after he broke up with me. I texted him to call me as I need to ask something. He did. I asked him if he was/is seeing someone else or ever cheated while with me. He said no, never.
I asked did you have someone to come over to your flat last night. He said no. I said I know A was at your flat. He asked how did I know. I said to him I know we broke up and I have no right to ask you but a day after we broke up you already invited A to your flat was just not right. The feeling is still raw.
He said he was feeling sad so he invited her to eat pizza and watch movie. Of course we knew it happened more than that.
I asked so my gut feeling about A was right. He said yes, he admitted that they were flirting at work but they stopped. He said A likes him and I asked do you like her too. He said yes I like her too but right now I don’t want any relationship.
Reddit readers,
I feel betrayed. I feel humiliated. I thought he was different, I never thought that he would cheat/ flirt when in a relationship. That’s not how I know him. I spoke with our mutual friend that we hang out once per week and she also said she cannot believe that he invited A to his flat yesterday/last night. No wonder he turned down her offer to come over to her flat for BBQ with our other mutual friends last night, because A was coming over.
I fought so hard for him and our relationship because I saw him as a guy who is nice and will not cheat/flirt like this.
My heart break into pieces. All those two years plus with memories we created together means nothing to him. I was a great girlfriend to him as admitted by him - I washed his dirty dishes and clothes, I ironed his work clothes for five days, I cooked, I cleaned his flat, I was there for him, I brought positive changes in his life. I encouraged and enriched his life. I understand if I wasn’t treating him nice but I did, he knew for sure that my love for him is pure and he knew I can provide stability and security in the relationship as I don’t seek other men.
He invited the girl who I suspected something was wrong since June this year just a day after we broke up. She posted view from his flat balcony on her instagram saying “full of surprise and added hashtag of his flat postcode”.
He said I was the best girlfriend he ever had who can tolerate him. Mostly he was grumpy, cranky, moody and depressed but I was always there for him.
I’m feeling down and sad like I’m being used and throw away like a garbage.
I texted him my closure that I can’t believe what he did. I know we broke up but inviting her after a day broke up with me and she posted on her instagram - sort of like bragging that I will find out is just heartbreaking.
I told him don’t worry I will forget everything about him and I’ll not hope for getting back together because what he did with A just opened my eyes. I also feel that he determined to end our relationship because he likes A and he wants to pursue her - she’s something new I’m something old. That’s one of the reason why. Before this when we had issues, he always wanted to work it out with me as we were a team.
He read my text because the blue tick on WhatsApp. Of course he will not reply it. I’m not expecting him to reply but I need him to know that the flirting with A when he was with me is morally wrong.
Whether he feels guilty for what he did? I don’t think so, he said I have no right to know what he did with A after we broke up the day before - no obligation to tell. True, but I’m a human being. I’m hurt. I hope one day he’ll realise it, just a hope.
I want to move on but I’m still feeling sad, I feel like a garbage, I wrote garbage many times in this because this is my exact feeling.
I’m shocked.
I’m writing here hoping your honest and brutal opinion may help me to move forward and forget him.
I love him dearly but once I found out the flirting, his admission of liking A and talking to her while we were together and inviting her to his flat not even 24 hours after the break up...is really painful. Your word of encouragement will help me to become stronger day by day.
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- Novni Guest · 6 years ago
  Hello !
  I am so sorry you had to go through all of this. Your guy sounds like an asshole. First he did all of these morally wrong things, literally let the relationship go, and then blamed you for it! Omg, all I see is RED FLAGS, run girl run!
  I went through a similar situation, tried to make it work with an ex for the longest time. Then we went on this one month trip where we lived in a dorm. There were few boys and lots of girls, and all the girls were all over my ex. That loser told me loved me and then a week later picked up this girl right in front of me. That’s when shit started going downhill. He told his friend that I confided in that we weren’t dating so I shouldn’t get mad. Fair, but he doesn’t realize pathetic him told me he loved me only a week before.
  So on the trip I would distance myself from him and he would come back and apologize. I would get closer, he would do something else stupid. Eventually he did something so bad I was like nope.
  When we got back we got together again and I told him iwanted to work on us and he said no, there might not be a future and he doesn’t want to waste my time. LOLL yet whenever I tried to move on he was there to stop me. That is when I knew and I saw the pattern and slowly started working on me. As I did that I started to LOVE ME! All the confidence and self esteem issues I had because of him started to go away because I took control of the situation as much as I could, and that was by changing myself.
  Your ex honestly is disgusting, and so is A. They both flirted knowing u guys were together. And guess what? After If A and ur ex become something, after the honeymoon period wears off, they will be doing the same thing behind each other’s backs. They deserve each other. And they are both going to play each other.
  Best revenge is to be the Karma. Drop from his life and focus on you. You are amazing but he got u explaining and begging to get back together. I did the same, trust. And watch as soon as he gets to know pathetic A, he is going to regret what he had. Deeply, and to his core. In the meantime you will have built an empire for yourself.
  Referencing back to my situation. I completely stopped talking to my ex, I didn’t want to deal with his drama and I realized life is more peaceful without him lol, he wasn’t worth. Now he texts me, and I don’t text back, I actually a few days ago told him We don’t need to talk anymore and blocked him. I know I gave him the world, and When you lose someone that gave u everything, u feel it for a long time. He showed me his true colours, and ur ex showed his. It’s a blessing, now u know his true character, and u do not want to take a liar and cheater back.
  While I was going through this and the feelings of hurt and betrayal were still fresh I never expected to be on the other side where I would feel so liberated by a shitty relationship ending. You have to feel your emotions and let them run course. You were real in this relationship, and your emotions reflect that good character. But even though you feel a certain way u can still take steps to move forward, not regress back by asking him to take u back. Remember if he wanted to, he would already have, so time to take some power back and drop him. I healed through reading a lot of internet articles about no contact rule, and this fabulous website called anewmode.
  Best of luck girl. Know you can do this! You are an independent women and you work to support yourself, u don’t need people bringing u down. He just isn’t the Man U fell in love with, he is someone else because he chooses to be.
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  - Novni Guest · 3 years ago
    You played his wife. Some men cheat on the wife and leave them. What did he give to you? What did you get out of the relationship? It is true that there are plenty of fish in the ocean. Good luck. You deserve better.
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- Novni Guest · 6 years ago
  And girl, look like a million bucks. I started taking care of myself by going to the gym, eating better and sleeping. I used the energy I used on him, and redirected it to myself. I changed my style into sleek, chic, and womanly. Doing these things will help develop your self confidence and make you feel good. As a bonus it literally doubles the regret of your ex because now you are fire because of your confidence and unavailability.
  It takes time and this experience is meant to grow you. You can’t grow without hardships ☺️. You are an amazing women because despite what your ex did to you, you still gave him all of yourself. And You will continue to be amazing 😊💜
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- Novni Guest · 6 years ago
  Then the day will come when he sees you living and it hits him. When he contacts you, trying to find out how you are, and you get to say he has no right to know because you aren’t together anymore. But make sure you don’t reply to him until at least a month no contact, otherwise you may fall into his trap. If he feels that you are making way for him again, he will repeat the same stuff he has before. Patterns never lie.
  Sorry for the multiple replies! I kept on having stuff to add. I hope you find peace :). i also reccomend watching Derrickjaxn on YouTube. He is a relationship coach and says everything with straight up truth.
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- Novni Guest · 5 years ago
  I am so sorry you are going through this. At this point you are probably feeling like there is no justice in this world, and you are probably analyzing what went wrong and kicking yourself for some of the things you might’ve done to cause this situation, and the next moment wishing your ex gets what he deserves, and then starting to rationalize why he did what he did and feeling some compassion towards him. It is a super confusing time for sure.
  I know because recently my gf left me for someone else. The relationship was very good and we were both very affectionate toward each other, so I was completely blindsided. The other guy even sought me out and gloated to me about what happened. Like you, at the time of breakup she denied any involvement with the new person, but then immediately after breakup the new guy started posting pictures of them together being smothered in love. It is as if my ex gf moved all that we’ve had shared and poured it into a new glass.
  This happened 2 months ago and I would like to share what I did to get through this.
  1. Change your pattern- I immediately changed my life patterns for the better. Doing so will have a big affect on your body adjusting to the change, because the old pattern will only bring sorrow and helplessness when the other person is no longer there. So I started taking cold showers. Quit video games all together. I used to binge until 5am in the morning and feel tired the next day, with bad black eye circles. Now I am in bed before 11pm and wake up early the next day naturally without an alarm clock (better to feel more awake because alarms interrupt your sleep cycles). Now my eye circles, which had been a problem for the last 18 years, are fading away.
  2. Set small goals- I set some short term goals. I had dry skin around my knuckles and previously had not been too serious about fixing it. I started to studiously applying ointment on it and the problem is close to being fixed.
  3. Physical appearance- I make sure I look as good as possible. I took up boxing and lost 15 lbs. In fact, i started going everyday and I went overboard and became underweight, so I hired a personal trainer to bulk me up again. This will be the first time in my life getting a six pack, and many people around me noticed the change. I HIGHLY recommend boxing because it’s the best way of losing weight, and it is not boring like running on a treadmill. You are actively trying to improve on a skill, and it feels great to punch things to let out some steam. This body change also allows me to buy a new wardrobe and fit into clothing that I previously didn’t think I will be able to wear again. And because I work to look better, I started eating much better too by giving up sugar altogether.
  4. Career- I always have been meaning to create an accessories brand and within 2 weeks went ahead and incorporated a company, then got samples ready and already lined up buyers.
  5. Once you are on your way, assess how you can push yourself even further. I am already planning on the next steps of improvements such as picking up older hobbies I have given up.
  Once you have made these improvements, you will be so motivated you won’t want to go back to your previous lifestyle. You will feel good about yourself too. But keep in mind, you do this for yourself. Of course you will dream of the day when your ex runs into you and regret walking away from you. But your ex, his new relationship, his thoughts, are all out of your control. So fantasizing about things are best left to the imagination. And when you meet someone better in the future, keep your healthy lifestyle up. Don’t rely on someone else to make you happy.
  I know this might not be exactly what you want to hear, but hope this helps, because judging by your situation, your ex doesn’t deserve a second chance.
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- Novni Guest · 5 years ago
  He was a complete waste of time and you should feel sorry for that girl cos one days he’s gonna make her feel like garbage too! There a billions of people in this world and believe it or not some guys out there would never say the sh*t he said to you about your weight, but love you for who you are because they’re not idiots who think women aren’t human. There’s nothing wrong with a bit of a tummy and the guy that is worth your time will show you that, believe me he’s out there and it’ll happen when you don’t expect it but focus on you and do the things that make you happy, please! I know what it’s like to let go and waste time on an ignorant guy but you’ll look back and feel glad that you no longer thing of him cos he’s already been such a waste of an amazing girls time! Stay strong
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- Novni Guest · 2 years ago
  Girl move on. Forgive him. But never go back to him. A relationship is a blessing and a lesson. Only you where real from the start. The right one will come. Just dont change yourself. Improve workhard. You are one of the rarest gem. Be a good woman or man for a guy. Your relationship will be lesson to him a day a month a year. That will or might change regret in him. Real woman and man cry. Because it will make you be stronger. Just become a traditional modern woman. Not a feminist menemism.
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
I really like this!! My husband/best friend/soulmate left me for a younger woman and now he feels trapped. I have always been there for him and I must be the biggest idiot or the most patient person in the world because I am waiting for him to come around again. He says he can’t let me go, but he doesn’t know what to do because his girlfriend is nuts and afraid that she will do something if he leaves her. He still tells me that I am a better person than she is and a better mom. I never thought that this could happen but I guess it can happen to even the happiest of marriages.
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- Novni Guest · 6 years ago
  To; ' I really like this!! My husband/best friend/soulmate left me for a younger woman and now he feels trapped ' He's lying. Surely you can see that. He's whispering sweet nothings. Stop this nonsense. He's still plugging her and telling her he likes her firm soft young skin , as be buries himself deep inside her, then tells you how much he regrets what he's done and he's just waiting for the right time to leave her. Next, she'll be pregnant and he'll wait till the birth......then marry her........ Please stop now!
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- Novni Guest · 5 years ago
  ?!! He gets to leave his wife for a younger women & then tell his wife bad things about the other woman? That doesn't sound right. You make it seem like he's the victim. He's talking bad about the both of you to each other. He's probably telling her he hates his wife and she's a better woman. How can you tell your wife you can't leave the mistress because she's crazy?!
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  - Novni Guest · 4 years ago
    Exactly! And she is waiting for him.... go figure...
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Novni Guest · 6 years ago
It is extremely difficult to find the perfect match these days. It's true that we only realise what we lost after it's gone. The grass is not always greener on the other side and good partners should be more appreciated. Take this lesson and learn from it to make sure you don't make the same mistake twice. Good luck.
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
I had the same experience. Most guys have this feeling that the pasture is always greener on the other side. Not i regret what i did until now.
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
Yeah you only regret it because things hadnt worked out as you imagined. Had you found the girl of your later on, you wouldnt even have remembered her.
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
I left my partner of 7 years for someone I hardly knew. It's so painful. I deeply miss my ex and wish I could go back and change some things. I wish I could go back in time and say "no," or, "I want to do this and I insist I'm treated like an equal in this relationship." I know you said your ex was selfless, mine wasnt by any means, but you are wrong when you say she was perfect. None of us are perfect. We are all hurt and flawed and dying. Yes, my ex was incredibly selfish on some things but that is not all of who she is but it was something too powerful. I am an incredibly passive and people pleasing person- it has caused me a lot of harm in life- she was a lesson I needed to learn and as painful as it was, I've learned it and have walked away a better person.
Nothing can take the sadness away, not even time. You learn to accept it and keep breathing. That sadness will lessen but it will always be there. It is a part of you now and when it acts up and makes it's presence known, I believe it is a sign that there is something more the relationship is trying to teach you and you need to stop, express it somehow ( I LOVE to cry hard until I feel better), and allow that pain to transform you. Becca, that's my wonderful, amazing, ex, loved people. She could see the brokenness inside others and wanted to shower them with kindness- I wasnt like that. I hated people and was suspicious of them. I figured everyone was out to fuck me over somehow and were going to hurt me if I wasnt careful. I wasnt friendly to strangers I encountered and treated them as if they were nothing. Because of leaving Becca and missing her so terribly, I've noticed that I have somehow adopted her deep love for people. Ok, no, I don't deeply love people like she did but I am closer than I ever was when we were together. I'm now in this habit of smiling at people as I walk down the street and extending positivity and love in their direction and it has done a lot form me in terms of happiness and inner peace. I don't know why I didnt listen to her when we were together. I don't know how this, one of the many things I resented her for, has proven to be an effective tool for me to connect with others now that we are over but it has and I am grateful.
There are a lot of things I am doing now that I did not do when we were together but I know that they all come from her so I know it was not all for nothing.
God, I miss her and my heart still breaks every single day.
I don't know if I will ever be a totally happy person like I wanted to be for her
but I think that maybe I can achieve a level of happy that is realistic for me someday and a lot of that happiness is growing from lessons I could not hear or appreciate in her presence. I will never understand why and it might never feel fair but life is what it is and we have to accept our decisions and circumstaces or you go crazy and give up.
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
I’m so excited because my broken marriage has been restored & my husband is back after he left me and our 2 kids for another woman. After 8 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that dr umoru can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (Love spell) for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before,All thanks to dr umoru. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that dr umoru real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need your Ex back or your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster now. Here’s his contact: Email him at: drumoruherbalhome@gmail.com , you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2348078684819 ,THANKS TO dr umoru..
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
bro i am feeling this even 7 years after i left the perfect gf for me. God sent her to me as a blessing and i shit on it. i dont and didnt deserve her. now shes married woth lods and i am happy for her but i compare every girl to her and none measure up. i fucked up
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Novni Guest · 5 years ago
I’m so excited because my broken marriage has been restored & my husband is back after he left me and our 2 kids for another woman. After 8 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that DR.okojie can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (Love spell) for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before,All thanks to DR.okojie. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that DR.okojie real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need your Ex back or your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster now. Here’s his contact: Email him at: godwinokojiespellcaster22@gmail.com , you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2347037056969 ,THANKS TO DR.OKOJIE..!
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Novni Guest · 4 years ago
Hello everyone, i want to thank Dr. mustapha for restoring my broken relationship. After being in relationship with Anderson for years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to my friend and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4 pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to great Dr. mustapha the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem. E-mail: { I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to great Dr. mustapha the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem. E-mail: { I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to great Dr. mustapha the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem. E-mail: {doctormustapha964@gmail.com } you can email him if you need his assistance in your
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Novni Guest · 4 years ago
I’m so excited because my broken marriage has been restored & my husband is back after he left me and our 2 kids for another woman. After 8 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that DR.okogba can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (Love spell) for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before,All thanks to DR.okogba. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that DR.okogba real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need your Ex back or your husband moved to another , do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster now. Here’s his contact: Email him at: Drokogbasolutionhome001@gmail.com , you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2349066619550,THANKS TO DR.OKOGBA..!
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Novni Guest · 4 years ago
I was married at 32 and immediately tried to get pregnant. When I was unable to conceive I had blood tests for fertility and was told that I had an FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) of 54 and would not be able to have children. Even though the doctors knew that I had been diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis since age 25, no one bothered to check my thyroid levels. my TSH was measured at .001. My Synthroid dosage was lowered. a friend advise me to contact a spiritualist who help with fertility with his medicine, i collected his contact and explain my situation to him he prepared for me a herbal medicine which i took as describe by him. became pregnant very quickly, I had a successful pregnancy. I have my baby august 2017. to get pregnant at age 35 with my 2nd child in september 2019, thank you sir , this is his email contact if you require his help babaka.wolf@gmail.com or Facebook at priest.babaka
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fatelynn · 4 years ago
I was married at 32 and immediately tried to get pregnant. When I was unable to conceive I had blood tests for fertility and was told that I had an FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) of 54 and would not be able to have children. Even though the doctors knew that I had been diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis since age 25, no one bothered to check my thyroid levels. my TSH was measured at .001. My Synthroid dosage was lowered. a friend advise me to contact a spiritualist who help with fertility with his medicine, i collected his contact and explain my situation to him he prepared for me a herbal medicine which i took as describe by him. became pregnant very quickly, I had a successful pregnancy. I have my baby august 2017. to get pregnant at age 35 with my 2nd child in september 2019, thank you sir , this is his email contact if you require his help babaka.wolf@gmail.com or Facebook at priest.babaka
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Novni Guest · 3 years ago
You left the first girlfriend for the redhead, and then left her for the blonde. Maybe not having a replacement for the blonde is the problem.
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- Novni Guest · 2 years ago
  Until he does
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- Novni Guest · 2 years ago
  I'm glad I'm not the only one that noticed this. I wonder if he felt the same when he got with the redhead. Dude shouldn't be dating anyone for a while and seek therapy
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febeanouk · 3 years ago
Breakup is painful, sometimes we pretend to be fine but we are not, fighting to get the one we love back is also fighting to get back our joy and happiness. After my boyfriend of one year broke up with me, I could barely speak without crying. I felt blindsided and didn't know what to do. I didn't know if I could get him back and the anxiety was unbearable. I scoured the internet and after reading countless articles and websites about spells, I came across Lord Zakuza number + 1 (740) 573-9483. I wanted our relationship back and Lord Zakuza guaranteed me that my boyfriend will come back to me. So, I followed the instructions & plans that Lord Zakuza laid out for me and within 48 hours, we were back together and so in love! I know that it doesn't always happen that quickly, but Lord Zakuza said he's spells are effective and it did! I'm so grateful and I can boldly say that if you have been broken up with and you want to get that person back, Get in touch with him for Lord Zakuza is a GOD on Earth and he also specialises on spells to get pregnant for your partner, to get cured from any sickness or diseases, to win a lottery E.T.C. I'll never forget how he helped me. Email him now via: lordzakuza7@gmail.com
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Novni Guest · 3 years ago
I'm shocked by a sentenced I read here. Because I didn't leave my gf and I haven't date anyone else (because I don't want to complicate things) but also feel like "losing my youth now they I can still flirt easily". I'd love to talk to you, but in any case you've helped me enough with this text, and I thank you for this
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Novni Guest · 3 years ago
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simonpatchin · 3 years ago
I was married for 16 years to a loving wife. We had 2 children together who are now 11 & 13. I reconnected with an old girlfriend from college on Facebook and we began an affair and I left my wife. The woman I had an affair with is a wonderful woman and I love her too and our kids had begun accepting the situation and my wife has kind of moved on, but not in love with the man she is seeing. I thought I fell out of love with my wife and I felt terrible about what I did to her - she is a good woman and I don't know what came over me. I decided to try and get her back and I was recommended to Lord Zakuza for help to get reunited with my wife and within 48 hours after I made contact with Lord Zakuza my wife decided to work things out with me and now we are back together with our children living as one happy family. I really don't know the words to use in appreciation of what Lord Zakuza did for me but I will say thank you sir for reuniting I and my family back. For those in trying times with their marriages or relationship can WhatsApp Lord Zakuza for help or text with this number +1 740 573 9483 or you can send him an email to Lordzakuza7@gmail.com
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Novni Guest · 3 years ago
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Novni Guest · 3 years ago
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Novni Guest · 2 years ago
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Novni Guest · 1 year ago
I thought I was in love, we were together for a long time. Now that I look back at the relationship I don’t think he was able to be in love at all but I tried to make up for that. I figured out I tried hard enough, loved him enough, did everything he wanted, but he never reciprocated the same energy. Rather he played the pretend game and cheated behind my back. Thankfully I found out about his infidelity through the help of this software genius hacker at 'hackingloop6@ gmail .com, also reachable on WhatsApp + 1 (484) 540 - 0785, this genius hacked my ex's phone and gained remote access to his phone activities(That's how I was able to discover his infidelity). Now I’m alone with my lovely daughters which I thank him for because in spite of hurting me I have them. The scary thing is that I think I’ll never meet anyone who will ever love me so I don’t try dating at all. Sometimes I wonder if it’s possible to find true love.
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Novni Guest · 1 year ago
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Novni Guest · 11 months ago
I am shocked by how much similar our stories are. I too left the most wonderful, the most exciting, the most kind girl I ever met just because we belong to different communities. My heart pains and aches every day. There is not a day I don't think about her. Though I am dating this new girl who is somewhat prettier than her but honestly it's true beauty of a woman is from the inside. My ex didn't play video games but she did play with me and it was fun because she was a complete idiot . She was so cute. The morning face. The baby face. The crying face. I miss everything about her. I wish I could get back to her but my racist parents are hell and I as a son feel so trapped.
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Novni Guest · 10 months ago
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Novni Guest · 3 months ago
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