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I will call him Bob for lack of better name. Calling my fiance John. Not real names.
When I was 19 I dated Bob for a couple weeks. I had a low self esteem, was an artist and a gamer. I'd never had any interaction with men before and all of a sudden I was surrounded by them. I started dating Bobs friend who I liked a lot at the time, but Bobs friend dumped me because I wouldn't "put out" and I had "too much baggage". And then Bob began asking me out constantly on facebook, I kept saying no. Bob drove me home one day from a gathering of our friends, because we were in the same group, I was the last person he dropped off and Bob pulled over on the side of the road and said he wasn't going to drive me home unless I said yes to going out with him. I caved I said yes because I had no idea how to get home I didn't know where I was and I didn't have a license. He never got further than kissing me and groping me breasts which I hated every second and for the two weeks I felt disgusted, cornered, ashamed. And because of my low self esteem I didn't say anything. Nearing the end of the two weeks I went to Bobs birthday party and met my now fiance, John. I liked John immediately, we began talking on facebook, hanging out, we went on dates to the zoo and movies etc, as friends. And I realized how miserable I was being with Bob. So I called Bob to say I didn't want to be in a relationship with him. Bob turned up at my front door 20 minutes later demanding to come in and saying we could work it out and crying etc etc. I closed the door. I continued meeting with John who I enjoyed spending time with. Bob began leaving letters in my mailbox. I never read them. John threw them all in the bin. Bob sent me a couple hateful messages on facebook, then Bob started posting hateful things publicly about me on Facebook, John put him in his place on facebook. I have since blocked Bob and John has blocked Bob. I am at artist and my name and my work is public online, Bob has searched me online and is commenting on all of my youtube videos and Liking them and commenting and Liking on my business facebook page as well as Watching me on my deviantart. I'm 25 now. I dumped Bob when I was 19. We didn't spend more than 2 weeks together. It has been 6 years since I saw him last. John doesn't seem overly concerned. But Bob keeps showing up more and more on my public business social media accounts which I ignore. Bob doesn't know where I live as far as I'm aware, because John and I have moved twice and have never disclosed that information publicly. I just feel uncomfortable about this whole thing. Is Bob stalking me? What am I meant to do? I don't think he can ever find where I live :/
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hon if it makes you unconfortable you should tell your fiance. I'm sure he can understand because if its been so long, no normal person would continue trying to get to you through social media etc, especially if your thing with him was for such a short period of time.
you should decide if you want to confront this person, or have someone talk to him, or go to the police. discuss any other options as well.
i have a friend who had a pretty similar experience in high school, and he continued to harrass her into college even tho she had blocked him on all social media, then she threatened to get a restraining order and that cooled things down a bit. men can be crazy if they feel entitled to you and it is indeed scary.i really hope things work out!!
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