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(Sorry for the bad grammar) I am very bad at expressing my feelings, so I thought ranting on this random website, anonymously, would help clear my head. I am the second oldest of my four siblings, being one year younger then my brother. Coming from a traditional family, my parents and my grandma treat my brother differently then the rest of my siblings. He is the eldest son, so my parents and grandma treat him better then most other kids. For an example, whenever my brother is studying or sleeping, the whole family can't make any noise such as watching TV. Plus, he doesn't do any of the chores and never gets into trouble. My brother gets extra clothes then the rest of my siblings and secretly gets money from my grandma. Still, this isn't what upsets me the most. As the eldest daughter, if I don't do the household chores the adults treat me as if I am a lazy useless child. My grandma constantly talks about how men and women are different. That men are superior to women through nature. That the world of today is corrupted because women should be in the house and men should be working. She also adds that women are taking all of the men's jobs. This angers me very much. I could be better then my brother! Just cause I am a girl doesn't make me any less suited for certain jobs. Though I get angry, I can't fight back. Whenever I fight back, they always yell at me for talking back to them. I should add that my family isn't really well off, so I can't ask for anything. My mom works full time only to receive a minimum wage and my dad is a taxi driver receiving all kinds of negative customers. So, I can't talk back to my parents because I feel guilty. I am sorry if this was really long. Please give me advice and if anyone else went through the same things please comment below. Thank You.
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Haha, same with me; my mom, aunts, grandma and grandma's siblings that barely know me told me I should be this and that. All you can do is just silence. Old people are like that, they were too afraid of changes, some see us new generations like 'the destroyer of humankind and cultural aspects' (who told them to get pregnant then, haha, oh wait...thats the only job they had). Though, we're too modern for that to understand them either. So its consider opinions, I would say like white noise, you just have to listen but you have a choice. When you grow up, they can't tell you anything much, they can't bring themselves always to bug your life, too old for that, they might bug about your marriage life instead because they run out things to talk. Yea, its hard, no point fighting with old people, its actually good advice, just not quite fit for our taste so no point to listen to that either. I always just smile and say "ok, bye" whenever I disagree, they stop telling me things after that. If they argueing again, just quiet, no point fighting, its tiring you know? Old people gonna get tired too. Its not disrecpecting, as long you dont fight back.If they did stop you getting a job, you just tell them you want a man with high standard like you, if you have better job than you can get better man . Yea, this seems like being picky but that will change they mind a bit. "BETTER JOB BETTER MAN, GRANDMA! DONT CHU WANT YOUR GRANDCHILD TO BE A MILLIONAIRE?!" But seriously, what, everyone needs money, who's gonna buy food? Ignore your brother, he is the first one to get lots of kisses since baby so they already fond with him, first child always exciting... to others that is.You know, traditionally, second child is always the most rebellious, they should know by that. HahahaAnyways, I feel ya, goodluck.
Stay humble, outside. This is not just about being woman, its about living your life.P/s: I know its a very late reply, sorry I could be on time when you in need.
ReplyI understand your situation and i can relate to a certain extent too. The only thing u can do is prove them wrong in the future. I understand why u feel guilty, i have been there. In fact, i am still there. Still trying to figure that out. But i don't have other sibs. To me it happens with cousins and friends etc. Arguing or fighting back rn won't help. Just try to stay calm and keep the talking to a minimum. I am still trying to do that though. I am a very impatient person who gets angered easily. But i try to control myself, thinking of the look on people's faces when i succeed, accomplish sth the boys don't and prove myself to them. Try to think like that! It might help!
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