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So if you're reading this I really need your feedback. There's this boy, well call him Brad. I've always thought of him as just a friend. I know he has feelings for me and I've told him multiple times that I'm just not looking for a relationship right now (which is 100% true). But he refuses to give up on me. He's taking me to him frat events and I'm not even going to his school. Tonight he expressed his feelings to me, and I'm still not sure what to do about it. The more I think about him and I the more I'm liking the idea of it. But I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to someone. I just got out of a very abusive relationship... I haven't told "Brad" about any of this yet but he wants to know. I'm just so scared, my past has me afraid and I'm not sure if it's just that I don't want to ruin him and I's friendship or if I genuinely just do not want to be in a relationship... please help...
9/20/17
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I’m so sorry that your past relationships was so bad. I think that if you are at all interested in seeing “brad” that you should stress to him plainly and vague that your last relationship ended badly and right now your looking for a friendship with possibilities of going further. He needs to know that his feelings aren’t completely useless but make sure he knows slow and steady. Don’t rush! You got this
ReplyI'd let him know you need time. It's not going to happen right now, but if you're warming up to it wait on it. Don't entirely push him away if it's something you might want in the future.
ReplyLet him know how you feel! Its honestly the best thing you can do.
If he honestly cares about your feelings he will be excited that you are being open with him, and that you are admiting your feelings for him but at the same time he will understand that you need time to warm up to the idea of a relationship in general.
I'm sorry about your past, but I promise you, the best relationship you can have with anyone, is one where you have become best friends before jumping into a full on commitment.
I wish you the best girl
ReplyAbusive relations always leave a scar on you but that is not the end of it, I really feel sorry for you. Take your time to heal and let him know about it, If he really wants you in his life he will wait till you are ready and If you do like him and see yourself with him in near future let him know about it so he has reason to hold onto the feelings he has for you. Hopefully you can have a happy life ahead. Don't give up.
ReplyGo with your guts. Don't do it just because it seems "right". You don't like this guy, so don't get in a relationship with him. Just stop and breathe. Don't try and go faster than your legs can handle.
ReplyI think you should tell BrAD that you're not in a good position to be in a relationship yet. Let yourself take time to heal and if he is for real he'll wait for you. You deserve better. Don't tell him that u need time and suddenly get together with him. Lord knows how many friends Ive seen do that
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