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Everyone says that it is normal for siblings to fight and or hurt each other. I can understand that but I am starting to question if my relationship with one of my siblings is normal. I get along well with the oldest and she is always kind and never lays a finger on me. My brother is rough sometimes but I am pretty sure that is normal. I am just a little concerned with how my other older sister acts.
My older sister has had a hard time. She has short term memory loss (she hasn't had it all her life), and other things. I can tell she is struggling because of her attitude. When she was little she was still kind of cruel like braking a vase on purpose and blaming me just to watch me sit in timeout but she was a kid so it is very understandable.
Later though her goofiness was lost. She doesn't smile anymore. She yells at my parents if they by her any gifts on her birthday or try to celebrate a holiday with her. On Thanksgiving recently we were having friends and family over. This was the first time we did this so my mom was nervous brining things out like great grandma's china. My dad asked everyone to dress as fancy as possible. After the guests came over she showed up at the dinner table in literal pajamas. Anyways... I am getting kinda side tract.
What I was trying to say is I know she is probably going through something. I ask her things like if anything is wrong, how her day was, or say hi but she just yells at me if I talk to her. She pretty much hates me. I think I am a little more insecure about myself. I'm called 'annoying', 'fat', 'lazy', 'btch', and or something personal and in the moment that is insulting. I think part of the reason I started to starve myself was because of her. I can't blame her for that because I didn't tell her. Still everyone tells me I'm not fat but I feel like I should still lose some weight (I weigh 132 pounds (is that considered skinny or fat?)) I know she has problems in her life (that I don't know about) so I think she is just taking it out on me.
That isn't why I think are relationship might not be normal. She is more physical then that. Everyone says physical is normal but I noticed over the years I have started to flinch at peoples touch or try to shield myself when someone moves. I am more scared then I was. I don't know if that is normal.
She has done more the ruff housing. I remember a time recently she held me to the ground twisting my arm back. She held me to the ground. I begged her to stop, my arm really hurt, but she didn't. She kicked me a few times before laughing and let me go. I was really scared.
This isn't the first time. I remember one time I was playing with are dog on the floor (I was lying down cause it was our small dog) and she set her foot on my head to make sure I didn't move. I didn't want her to put anymore pressure so I stayed in place. She (again) kicked me.
I tried to avoid her around the house because she will run around and push me to the ground or punch me in the gut. I hate it when she comes up behind me because she grabs my neck or hits the pressure points in my side. She did burn my sisters hand once in an oven but she hadn't burned me.
It really freaks me out now when people walk closely behind me. I still don't know though. Does anyone have a relationship like this? I don't get how people treat each other like this but everyone says it is normal to play. I don't feel like were playing... I want it to stop.
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This isn't normal.
Have your parents noticed this?
If they haven't, then talk to them about it.
If they have, talk to them about why she has turned out the way she has, and what can possibly be done to make things better for both you and your sister. Don't wait till she burns the house down one day, talk about it.
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