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There comes a time in our lives when we all realize that no matter how much we want something, we can't possess it. i have come to many realizations lately.
Some that are undoubtedly hard to grasp and that conflict with former beliefs i held.
Being human we all have our weaknesses, those things that tear down our self esteem, our positivity, and our ability to accept that we can be hurt.
feeling weak is not something that i am fond of and i imagine many of you aren't either. It leaves us open to heartbreak, betrayal and loneliness. whether or not your weakness is caused by feeling these emotions, or these emotions are caused by weakness, we all wonder who is to blame.
Either it's those closest to us, the ones we trust, admire and adore. We believe they would never hurt us, but at some stage no matter how small or insignificant the situation is, they always do. It is defiantly true that 'the ones we love the most, tend to hurt us the most."
because as soon as we let them into our lives and into our hearts, we give them the power to destroy us.
Although the other person to blame ( which im sure many of us do) is ourselves. We think this because we believe that if we didn't let them in, then we never could have been hurt in the first place. We begin to resent not only them but ourselves, and wonder why we succumbed to letting that person have the ability to hurt us in the first place; because honestly what's the point letting people in if eventually one day they are going to make us question why we opened our hearts to them, when all they intended to do is break them.
so who do we blame?
the people who treat us badly, break our hearts and betray our trust? or do we blame ourselves, the person who let them do it?
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We can't exactly pinpoint who to blame. If we never let people in, is it better to be lonely or disappointed a few times? We can only blame growth for it. At the time, people seem genuine with their intentions and the ones we let in are mostly always the ones we want to keep close. Yes we open our hearts but that was the intention for us to trust that they wouldn't hurt us. When they do, it's up to you to make the decision to let them go. Like they say, hurt me once shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me. The simplicity of allowing ourselves to open up to people and us just wanting them to love us back is what is crazy. We give our all but the tragic thing is, growth shifts us to different universes and sometimes the people we let in aren't meant to be apart of our world. Things change and at some point if they aren't meant to be, just let go. You can't blame anything other than growth.
ReplyIt's not about blaming yourself or others. It's about becoming aware that we are all human & learn empathy. That we are all prone to times where we do not show our best side to yourself and others.
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