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I haven't discussed it with anyone until now that I'm posting this. I think I like a man 28 years older than me. And you know what's worse? He's my teacher. In 3 months I'm going to be 18. I don't expect a confronting response, but I finally wanted to take it off my chest. I'm not sure how to feel about it, if it's right or wrong. He's such an amazing person, not married, not in a relationship. He sometimes reminds me of myself. He has also tempted to touch me more than the typical situations, like he is giving me, I don't know, signs he's interested too??? But nothing that can be suspicious to my co-students. The words that are running through my mind are "I. Don't. Know.". Hope someone understands.
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Hye friend!
The one thing i can say is this:-
You don't love him, for love is pure from any Needs. It's something else that is driving you. Just like it drives whole of the world. Marriage, kids, death. I don't know if you have been told but you have a big purpose in your life, i am talking about your dreams- things you wanna do before you die. It wasn't marriage. Animals have that too. Aren't they?
I don't say if it is good or bad, but i ll say it is inappropriate at this time!
ReplyI once worked as a teacher. I can say sometimes students had crushes. I think it's okay to dream and have fantasies....
I think any teacher with even a little bearing of moral compass would know it wouldn't be appropriate to act on those desires with any student, the same as any attorney/client, doctor/patient, adult/child, religious leader/religious member, etc., would understand the trust, boundaries, social obligation, reasonableness, and promises that go with anyone in a position of authority and duty to break or breach their lawful and solemn responsibility or interest for purely selfish personal interest and pursuits.
The thinking or feeling of something or personal desire is purely understandable and acceptable; however, to act on those feelings in a way that is not safe, responsible, or respectful is an entirely different issue.
I used to work a lot as a teacher and therapist to teens experiencing all sorts of emotional hurt and personal trauma. It's easy to understand when a person as their teacher may give the younger person a feeling of safety, comfort, and control in life situations.
In short, it's just not healthy or appropriate in my personal and professional opinion for mutual relationships starting at such a serious imbalance in age, awareness, maturity, roles, and experiences to really work out cooperatively, communicatively, cohesively, and mutually understanding in the realm of a paired partnership. The analogy is of two ox pulling a wagon; when one ox is stronger, the two ox can't work together.
It's okay to dream, but I do hope you can realize that going into a relationship with a teacher much older doesn't always result in the healthiest or happiest of partnerships. Just my thoughts and experiences.....
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