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4 months ago · · Stress,
People have this misconception that their problems aren't important.
Hear me out.
We think of a problem, something that's hurting us, emotionally or physically. And we try to cheer ourselves up, because most people don't like hurting - and other people try to cheer us up, because we don't like seeing other people hurt, either. But there's this phrase, this saying, this idea. I've heard it used. I've had it used on me. I just caught myself thinking it, which inspired this post.
We compare our hurt to the hurt of others. Through that other experience, we downplay our own emotions.
For me, just now, it was the end credits of "Fiddler on the Roof." I sat back. I thought about how amazing the people were to be totally uprooted from their whole lives, the struggle real people in similar situations had to go through that I'll never fully understand, I think.
How could my problems - anxiety, depression, the whole enchilada - how could my problems even compare to that?
Other people have it worse.
Other people do have problems. Is my crippling anxiety over an essay as terrible as the struggle of people who haven't eaten a full meal in weeks? No, probably not.
Here's the thing people forget.
Just because someone else has bigger problems, things that hurt them *more*, DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUR PROBLEMS DON'T HURT!!! Do not compare your pain to someone else's. It does not help. It only adds stress and makes you feel like you don't deserve to complain or feel pain. You are not insignificant. Your pain is not insignificant. Don't tell anyone their pain doesn't mean anything, and don't tell yourself. I've used this as a way to beat myself up without even realizing that that was what I was doing.
You are important.
Not sure how to wrap this up, people have told me here that I'm good with words but I'm honestly a klutz and don't know how to end this post smoothly.
Be good people, won't ya?