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So I'm bi and I've never dated or even talked to a girl in that way before. I've only ever had bfs but there's a lot of times when I liked girls and just couldn't even be normal around them. And if I was normal with them, I still had no idea how to find out if they also went that way or how to approach them that way.
I mean like, how do girls date? Lol. Do they just know? Or can I ask them out and just see what happens like what they'll say? Or do I just wait for a girl to ask ME out? I don't know I have no clue, and I don't think I'm the only one who's like this. Yes it's 2019 but there are still a lot of us scared gays, closeted gays, confused gays, and or just basically all sorts of varieties of pretty much anything. Help?
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There must be a bi club around that you could join so that you guys see each other and you may probably find the one there
ReplySounds great u guys (: thank u very much this all sounds super helpful! ^-^
But also, could I try like the Tinder app just to start by talking to girls? I'm really bad with technology tho so it might take me a while..
ReplyDefinitely don't wait for the girl to ask. Being gay means you're allowed to be a LOT more forward than usual, and you can play it off as your sultry sexy character.
ReplySounds great u guys (: thank u very much this all sounds super helpful! ^-^
But also, could I try like the Tinder app just to start by talking to girls? I'm really bad with technology tho so it might take me a while..
ReplyI have shared some of these suggestions that worked for me on novni in the past. I'm bi.
Some fun memorable ways I found was getting massage books from a library. I asked girls I liked If I could massage them. It's like in time girls and I traded massages, and some expressed a willingness to kiss and experiment. Even eventually explore each other's sexual and sensual moments.
Another one similar I did is (depending upon the weather and where you live) is asking a friend or friends if they want to mountain bike/hike. I live in an area with lots of lakes, rivers, and hiking trails. We'd hike, have a picnic, go skinnydipping to swim. I could tell as we played in the water naked how if I kissed and held and laughed when passions were felt. It was just teen curiosity.
A similar way is nude sunbathing together. I still do this. I have lighter brown/blonde hair and more fair skin so I use a sunblock because I don't usually want to later get skin cancer or wrinkles. I find it's nice to relax, talk, and enjoying the sun's warmth. I just could tell if I asked friends to put lotion on my back sometimes. It just led to more.
A similar one is closer friends I'd ask to trade fingernail painting. In time we started helping each other out with tweezing stray hairs. Later with some we helped each other with body hair shaving. It just from the intimacy caused me and my friends to share feelings.
Another one I did was ask friends to exercise with me. I'd ask friends to jog or exercise with me. Afterwards we shared showers. I'd ask girls I liked if they wanted their hair shampooed or back washed. Things kind of just expanded from us washing each other.
Another similar one I really cherish was asking friends if they want to take a bubble bath together. I was just at a friend's place last Sunday. We had gone to a mall and bought some bath bombs. We went to her house. It was so much fun. We played in the colored water. We held each other. Kissed. It was fun. She got off under the tub faucet while I held my friend. I have used jacuzzis, spas, hot tubs, and hot springs to just soak and explore.
Another popular one is inviting friends for sleepovers. Just invite one friend so you can get to know them. Share personal feelings and cuddles. Just talking and being friends. Explore your mutual curiosities.
Another one is see if there is an LGBTQA club at your school or in your community. There are usually teen programs in some cities and communities for friendships.
Also see if any churches or religious centers offer special programs for LGBTQA faith members in the community.
Some communities host LGBTQA rally's, fairs, carnivals, and street fairs. Those can be nice places to meet new friends.
I volunteered at a local LGBTQA library. OMG! There were so many people who wanted to meet me and invite me places it really was amazing!
There are ways. Lots of times it's just focusing on having fun and the most amazing friendships may emerge!
ReplySounds great u guys (: thank u very much this all sounds super helpful! ^-^
But also, could I try like the Tinder app just to start by talking to girls? I'm really bad with technology tho so it might take me a while..
Replyhey there :) I'm actually a lesbian. You should make the first move! If there's someone you like. If it doesn't go as planned, then take it as a win instead of a failure because you tried. There has been a few times i've thought a girl was into me and then come to find out she has a boyfriend. Times like those are a okay!! keep trying! tinder is a good way to meet people as well. any type of LBTGQ+ clubs are wonderful and all so helpful.
I hope you figure it out!!!
ReplyIt's hard knowing with girls nowadays. My first proper girlfriend was straight. I wouldn't say i turned her bi but after talking i made her realise that love is genderless. What im trying to say is you can never really know unless theyre out and happy to talk about it. Theres many times ive thought someone was and they werent but thats just the process of finding the right person. Wishing you all the best.
ReplyThank you so much. I completely understand what you're saying, this is VERY helpful <3
Replymy girlfriend and I both hinted we liked eachother in a loooong 2 hr convo over text, before I finally told her i had been wanting to date her. Turns out she had liked me for a year and a half...so Im glad I came clean and told her how I feel. She is my first girlfriend and I've never felt this way about anyone, Im so deep in love with her it scares me sometimes. Anyways, just go for it! if you see a girl you like, try feeling out if they are into girls as well. If it seems apropriate, make a move-it could lead you to an amazing relationship.
ReplyThanks! I'll give it a shot (:
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