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So I am with this man since last 1 and an half year now. In distance relationship over 1 year now. The starting few months were nice. But after that 'honeymoon period', things starter getting different.
We started fighting a lot.
There can be no simple peaceful discussion between us but arguements. Every time we try to discuss something, we end up fighting and demeaning thought process of the other person.
We started talking less and less. And by luck only, we get to spend an entire day peacefully otherwise impossible.
I started threatening him about ending up the relationship over and over again. I started becoming insane and 'insecure'. My passive aggression starter rising. I stopped expressing my thoughts. My opinions started getting suppressed. And after every fight, I started going away. I would put my phone on flight mode and not talk to him for hours or even days. Until, I calm down.
And this cycle continues.
It happened yesterday too. And we are not talking again. May be avoiding each other! But ai realised today that every time I am doing this. Like I am messing up things with my judgements and passive aggression. Now while googling around, I found an article on " SIGNS OF TOXIC RELATIONSHIP". It says passive aggression is definitely a red flag. Which I do , more or less.
Am I suffocating him? Am I ruining his life? He has his own problems right. Am I adding more to it? Should I quit? Will that help him to get out of it?
P.S. - I TRY NOT TO REPEAT MY BEHAVIOUR. BUT SEEMS LIKE I AM LIKE THIS ONLY. A TOXIC GIRL. BUT I LOVE HIM. SO I WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY. WITH ME OR WITHOUT ME.
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Replyyou are a strong girl :)
Maybe you two only need more time. Everything is just a matter of process. Get pass through it and love win !
And don't forget to pray, dear :)
If you can't find peace between you two then, maybe that's a sign he's not a right person for you.
ReplyI would never do anything to ruin someones life, however a lot was done to ruin mine.
ReplySo what are you suggesting to me? Should I leave him on his own? I know he also loves me. He will be hurt if I do so. But at the end of the day, my presence is also not proving beneficial to him! I can see him suffering because of me. What should I do?
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