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Hello everyone, over the years I've lost a lot of confidence. After certain events happened to me my confidence went straight down. This has affected me greatly and i'm so not confident it dictates my life. It actually worries some of my friends. Compared to how I act now then back a couple years. I still have dreams I want to achieve. And to make them happen I need confidence. But I constantly over analyze things and care about what people say and think. I dislike myself so much its actually really annoying. I can't really think of any good qualities I have. Does anybody have some advice for me or can relate to this?
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ReplyDon’t be so hard on yourself if you fail at something.
Learn from your mistakes.
Laugh at yourself sometimes.
Help and compliment others so they will compliment you.
Don’t forget and reward yourself when you show progress or succeed.
Set achievable step by step goals.
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Regular exercise trains discipline.
ReplyI was like this when I was young, but I became more confident as I aged. If you care too much about what others care and think you can be holding yourself back from what you really want to do. Build on your own ideas because you cannot live your life just to please others. Don't fall a victim to their opinions. Maybe you care too much about having friends and not displeasing them. If they are real friends they will respect your decisions and step away from what you decide to do with YOUR life.
ReplyAlmost in the same situation. I have seen myself mess up the dreams I wanted to most for myself.
So many things led to me lose my confidence.
It's scary to see people from this side, when they are so sure about themselves, about their happiness.
But I try to be happy for them and not envious.
I'll tell you what I try everyday, do a single thing you never thought you could. Like controlling yourself from messaging a person who isn't good for your mental health, like getting some tasks done for example laundry, or a chapter in a book.
We start to realise how much we trusted ourselves, when we begin to doubt ourselves.
And maybe we can never go back to the person we were before. But from here we can start, and become a stronger person who endured all those things. Brick by brick we can build ourselves a confidence.
I hope I didn't say anything wrong or overstepped.
Have a great day. Take care :)
ReplyYou re not alone.Confidence is something you can build. However,to build confidence,you have to believe in your selfworth. Know and believe that you have great value.
To find that great value,do something nice for someone else,the more you ll give to others,the more you ll gain.When you help others in any way and see the happiness you ve brought them,it makes you feel good,useful,valued.
In the process of helping others,help yourself as well by taking care of your physical self, when you look good,it makes you feel good,then find good people to be around,so they can remind you of how valuable you are.
Try that,you ll regain your confidence and way more.
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