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So.
You're gonna hate me for saying this, but I need to say it anyway.
There's this guy.
I dated him for about 8 1/2 months before he went off to go on his mission. We've been trying to keep it together for about a year now, but our communication has sucked. I feel like I've always put so much time & effort & money into communicating with him whereas he hasn't? But every time I get close to firmly ending it, he surprises me with a thought process that is sweet & genuine & I reconsider.
I don't know if we'll end up together, but I'm debating whether or not I should give him a chance when he gets back.
Now... I've never been someone to have 2 guys talking to me. I'm not cheating, I'm not even sure I could be considered to be dating either of these people. But... this other guy who I met right before he left was really sweet. & every week since he's been gone he has sent me a video every week telling me about what's going on in his life, something I don't get from the other guy. He's really sweet!! Like really sweet. & we are absolutely friends, but I can tell he likes me in a deeper way.
Now my problem is... Both of them want to try & date me when they get back, & I don't know what to do about that. I want to feel comfortable living my own life, & making my own choices, but this one I don't know how to solve.
I know it will work out, but... does anyone have any advice?
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For the first man you met, is he unagreeable in any way that would make relations in person together undesirable? I have been in a long distance relationship for two years now, my very first girlfriend in my life, no physical affection, never seen her apart from video calls and photos. Other women came along, as if life said "Are you sure you want to wait?" I met one of the most gorgeous women I ever laid eyes on in my life, but I did not want her. She was dating, and though she seemed interested at one time, I did not want her hurting her boyfriend over something that would not happen. I wanted my girlfriend. I would wait 50 years or more if I had to for my one. Ask the guy you are currently with how he feels about you, and say how the lack of communication makes you feel. He might be incredibly busy and makes those special efforts every chance he gets. Give him an opportunity to speak his mind, to see if you can both make this work. What he is doing behind the scenes may be for you, and for a life shared together, building a career and ensuring a future with plenty. If possible, please take a moment to thank both of them for the work they do. Remember also, love is never far, it is there when you need it.
ReplyWhich one can touch have a deeper conversation with? It's all on you but do what makes you comfortable, what's best for you, get to meet them better, you're going to have to choose eventually. Luck 🍀🍀
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