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I've heard this phrase almost always.. and people who tell me this either doesn't mean it or doesn't know what it means.
I'm the kind of person who listens. When you want to rant about something, you want to share a secret, you want to share your thoughts/your opinions, I'm the person you go to. I listen because i know how it feels not to be listened to.
Most people around me hear me, but they don't listen. They ask me what'a going on, but when i start to tell them, they tell me what's going on instead. When they tell me, "talk to me", and i start talking, they cut me off and tells me a similar scenario/situation they've been in. They ask me, "what do you think?" But then they tell me i shouldn't think that way. That i should do this or that.
They tell you they are there for you when you need someone to talk to but really, they are telling you, "thank you for listening to me, if you need someone to talk to, i am here for you, but not necessarily listen to you, okay?"
Sometimes people tell you that just because you listened to them, a sign of gratitude, a synonym for thank you, a phrase people say everyday that they say because they can. It's not a promise, it has no bearing. Just a couple of words thrown out there.
It's discouraging. It's disapppointing. It's frustrating. When i tell you my thoughts, my fears, my insecurities, of how messed up i am-- it's okay if you don't say anything. It's okay if you don't understand. Advises and things i should do or should've done are the least of what i need. I just want to let it out. I just want you to listen. You don't have to invalidate my thoughts.. my feelings. You don't have to tell me i should just look on the brighter side, to think positive because trust me, i have. But its still here. I still feel this way.
You keep telling me to talk to you whenever i need someone to listen to me but you make it hard for me to open up when all you do is cut me off, tell me your story that is similar to mine, give me advises and worst, you don't just try to fix it but you also don't let me finish.
I want to tell you my thoughts.. but how could i? When everytime i try to try to tell you my thoughts, if i was eating food, i keep losing my appetite.
How could i, when everytime i tell you something, i end up explaining myself?
How could i, when i tell you what i think, you don't listen to understand, you listen to respond.
How could i, when i tell you something about some things it always ends up in arguments?
How could i when everytime i try to tell you about myself, i feel rejected, misunderstood, and invalidated?
How could i talk to you?
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