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my mother has major depression and lately, she has been overly dependent on everyone to listen to her problems and do stuff for her. It's becoming to much for me to handle and she is not actively working on her own recovery. She's only been on medication for a week and is constantly flip flopping saying she wants to come off of it and then says ok she'll continue with her medication regimen. Today, she came by my house and I didn't let her in. I feel so guilty, but on a nice day like today, the last thing she should be doing is hanging around here waiting for other people to do the work she should be doing, which is actively seeking out ways to improve her mood (e.g. walk in the park, read a book, music, etc). When I was depressed, I felt the same way as her, but after a certain point, I actively worked on myself, even on the day I didn't want to, but she's not doing that and it's too much for me mentally, to deal with. I already have a lot on my plate and I'm not the one that can solve her problems, she has to do it. My older sister is feeling the same way. Am I an asshole? because I feel like one now
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She could still be getting used to her medication. Maybe a way for her to actively seek out a way to improve her mood was to visit you. Maybe she wanted you to go out with her. It could have been a big thing for her to call at your house. Everyone is different and the way she is handling her depression could be a lot different than the way you handled yours. She could be lonely and wanting company. You were much too hard on her. Please call her and arrange to have her at your house as soon as possible.
Replyshe's always had this type of dependent personality. It's not her getting used to her medication, it's her way of not trying anything at all.
ReplyYou are not an asshole at all. I think you should talk to her about it in a private spot and tell her how you and your sister feel. Also, you could give her a list of stuff to do to help her feel better. If that doesn't work, maybe make her an agenda with stuff to do until she starts doing it on her own. Also, you might want to set up an appointment for her with a therapist and/or counselor
ReplyHer lack of coping mechanisms has been giving me anxiety because I feel like she's not letting me breathe or giving me space. I've made countless suggestions to her and she makes excuses not to do anything on her own.
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