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I confronted my bf about negative things that he had done. He says sth like "I won't waste my time talking about that" and also "I don't consider you my partner anymore". I was like "what? How long ago?" And he replied sth that happened A LONG time ago and that we talked about in many ocassions (we had problems in the past related to expectations and what each other gave to the relationship). This "single status" is not exactly coherent with his posts on Facebook and Instagram recently and months ago ("happy Valentine's day", "I love you" and so on) so I guess he said that because he now feels tired of the relationship and wants me to realize that in the worst way possible. I feel miserable with this situation and his words. I can't say that this is unexpected because it is not.
But now he's repeating sth like "IF YOU CAN'T STAY HERE [his house, where we have both been during this super long lockdown that has been imposed in my country] HAPPY AND WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE I WANT YOU TO LEAVE". Of course I can't be joyful and act as if nothing has happened. An additional problem is that in less than two hours people are arrested if they're outside... I can't leave his home after the curfew.
I want to read your opinions and advice. I feel miserable and lost.
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Where do you live?
ReplyIn South America.
ReplyDid you ask me that because of the curfew issue?
It's from 9 pm to 6 am. I can go away tomorrow if I want.
ReplyIf you don't mind me asking, what specifically were you asking of him or confronting him about? Do you remember how your tone of voice was?
ReplyHe has been sexting other people. I confronted him about that. My tone was somehow calm and I didn't insult him.
ReplyHmm, well it sounds like you're doing what you can to keep it as respectful as you can while also addressing an issue that causes a drift between you two, it's a shame he doesn't want to own up to his actions and recognize how much it hurts you. And it is understandable that you may feel miserable and lost because of it.
If he does not want to acknowledge how his actions make you feel, even after you telling him, that may be a sign he does not want to continue the relationship, as he is not putting his effort in trying to properly explain himself or even give you the chance to express your frustration. I would suggest coming up with an exit plan for when all the lockdowns resolve and surround yourself around those who do care to hear about your situation.
ReplyI really appreciate your words. You're right, there are clear signs that he doesn't want to continue the relationship.
And yes, I need to surround myself with people who do care to hear about my feelings.
ReplyGlad to help, we're here for you. Best of luck!
ReplyThere is someone really fall out of love and already tired.
I am also too. I think I'm already falling out of love. Why? because I'm tired of accusations, I'm tired explaining my side though he knows that I don't want to explain. I'm tired trying to be someone that I can't. He doesn't even understands me until now. He always let me down. Yes he supports me but half heartedly. Until now he doesn't know what I want, what things make me happy. He act like a girl when got tantrums.
But I didn't still broke up with him because I know I will hurt him so much.
You both have fault. Guys I think don't like confrontation because like me, i hate explaining.
Sometimes don't put too much expectation because that is one the reasons why relationship become relationshit. It's better to expect the unexpected.
Try to talk to him once more. Ask him what you did wrong and when he says what it is, then you should the first to apologize. It doesn't matter who should apologize first.
ReplyYes, he's probably tired of giving explanations. He also may be tired of living with someone who doesn't fulfill his interests and who he doesn't look up to.
I find hard to follow your advice, but I'll have it mind.
ReplyGuys want their girl friends to be happy, merry, and joyful all of the time. If the girl has a problem the guy gets cranky and doesn't want to know let alone help. You must realise that men are selfish. He wants to be completely exonerated from sexting others. He is horrible.
ReplyYou may be right with that description.
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