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I’ve been having many friends move on with their lives and leave me, which I understand completely, and then the ones that I have left (which is about 2) one of which is going to college and the other is my significant other have had their own personal and serious stresses in life. They have other people to turn to, people that they seem to favor over me. I’ve done everything I can to help my significant other, but it seems like his girl best friend always does it better, always puts a smile on his face when I cant. I feel like I’m being so selfish for feeling guilty or like I’m just not enough anymore, I should be happy that he found a friend that lights up his life in the way I used to. And maybe if I had that kind of person I could turn to in life when I feel down or stressed, I wouldn’t feel this way. I just feel so lonely, like I’ll never be enough, like every friend I make gets bored of me and leaves me behind, or I’m just not good enough for them anymore. I tried talking to my significant other about my feelings a while ago before he had his personal stress take over and he said that I “rely on other people for my happiness too much” and that “having friends won’t solve your problems” and told me that “it’s selfish to just dump all your issues on someone”. I just feel so lost and hopeless. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I miss the feeling of someone being proud of me and telling me I did a good job, telling me to keep working harder because they believe in me. nothing I do now is ever enough and I’m not sure if it ever will be. People tell me I care about validation from others too much but I just want someone to believe in me.. I’ve been trying so hard to believe in myself, and sometimes I can, but the minute I have hope someone will be proud of me and love me for who I am I’m promptly proven wrong. I just wonder if I get boring and dull and worthless to people after 6 months and that’s why they leave off to better things. I feel disposable, people use me while I’m an interesting novelty and throw me out once I get boring. It always ends up the same way of me trying and trying, reaching out over and over and getting a take it or leave it response like nobody would care if I was there or not. It’s always me seeking out other people, people never want to see me anyone. I don’t know what to do anymore😔 if anyone has any advice I’m open to anything. And yes, I have given my significant other space, and support when he needs it, and he says he likes his friends better because they “live in the present” but when I try and tell him things about my present or ask about his life in the moment he ignores me over and over and it feels pointless. If anyone has experienced this tell me what I’m doing wrong😔
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I have experienced this a lot, it is hard honestly..you give so much for nothing and they just go away like they never even cared! I have been there, but eventually, I have realize that I have lost nothing! I admit it that I missed them in the beginning, but then I realized that it's their loss, literally! They are the ones who lost a loving honest and caring friend who would be always there for them, and I know that I have never done them wrong or even said anything wrong about them so I know that its their loss, and it's better for me because I don't deserve people who don't appreciate my existence in their lives and "friends" who can't see my worth!
You will get through this, especially when you understand and accept the fact that people come and go, they are either a blessing or a lesson, you win either way..you just keep being yourself, accept who you are, be happy with yourself and you will shine trust me. You don't need people who judge the way you are and don't appreciate the things you do for them and ignores you! There will people out there who will just like you for who you are and enjoy your company! But always love yourself first <3
ReplyI posted this about 2 hours ago as a guest and coming back to see this helped me so much❤️ :) thank you for your support, it helps me a bunch knowing I’m not the only one :)
ReplyI'm so glad to hear that and I truly hope you move on and feel better asap, because remember that you deserve to be happy :) and you are more welcome!
ReplyThis has helped so much❤️ Thank you :)
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