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I feel like such an insensitive person.
Somehow, I always manage to say something to a person that will make them upset with me. It goes through my brain and out of my mouth, while I'm thinking, "this wouldn't upset me, so it wouldn't upset them, right?" Well, wrong. I need to learn that others may not be as hard to upset as I am. Sure, I have a couple soft spots, but I don't know others' soft spots.
I upset one of my best friends the other day. What I said to her wasn't even an insult, but now looking back on it, I understand how it could be upsetting. I won't say it here, because it's kind of personal to her, so I would need her permission, but it wasn't an insult, I promise. I could tell she was sad, but she wouldn't tell me. She just kept saying "I'm fine. I'm fine. I'm fine."
My other best friend was actually the one who made me more aware of how much I could've upset her. I apologized, but she kept saying she was fine. I apologized over and over again, but I don't know if she forgave me. I hope she did. I still feel horrible about it, and this happened two days ago as of when I'm writing this. I feel like such a terrible human being for making someone else upset, but after a few minutes, she went back to her cheerful self. Almost a complete switch, as if she had forgotten.
I don't know when this happened, but my other best friend thought she was crying at one point. She asked if it was over what I had said to her. It wasn't, but then, her mom walked into the room. Since it's a secret, my best friend had to cover it up for my other best friend, so she said I was making fun of her for her favorite character. That makes me seem like a crappy human being, but at least her secret is safe. I probably am a crappy human being anyways.
I just hope we can talk again.
Her mom seems to allow me too, and my best friend reassured me that her mom thinks it was a misunderstanding, but I still feel like crap. For something I didn't do. I don't want to make her cry at all, neither of my best friends, in fact, even the thought of it makes me feel so terrible. At least her secret is safe.
I remember so many other instances like this, not exactly what it was about, but I've unintentionally made people upset many times. How do I stop this? I hate it. I'm a horrible person for doing this.
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Or, other people are thin skinned.
ReplyWhat's thin skinned?
ReplyWhen you let things get to you, overly so. Basically being really sensitive.
ReplyYou could tell her, “What I said was insensitive and I’m sorry. How upset I made you is really bugging me and I wish I could do something to really prove to you how much your happiness means to me. I’m an idiot with a foolish mouth sometimes and I understand what I said must have made you angry and hurt so please don’t shut out your feelings from me and whenever I upset you let me know. I would like you to forgive me and put it behind us, because you mean everything to me.”
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