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I am 22 years old, born and raised in America. I have recently gotten married to someone from New Zealand. He gave up his whole life to come be with me in America, and I can't be more thankful.
Recently though, I only have regretful thoughts when I think about what we did. The rioting, police shootings, the lack of proper handling of the COVID-19 situation and basically everything else has me regretting bringing him here. His country had COVID-19 completely handled within the first couple of months. When a shooting happened there, their leader wasn't afraid to take action or too corrupt to do anything in the first place. And the more things I hear about the coming election and Trump in the news the more terrified I am that something horrible is going to happen.
On top of political/large scale events, it has come to my attention just how impossible living on our own is. This country cares about one thing and that is money. People don't care about each other in the slightest. We live in Hawaii and there is no way on Gods green Earth that we can afford to live on our own here, so we live with my family. We also can't move states because in order to get an apartment you need a job in the area which we can't get without being there...
Basically every time I think about it, it should've been me that went to New Zealand and not him coming here. I am so stressed out thinking about the state this country is in, regardless of my opinions on who is right and who to support. Why should I have to be so afraid of my own government and neighbors when this is supposed to be one of the greatest countries in the world?
I also don't talk about these feelings with anyone other than my husband because I don't want to get into political topics with people. All I know is when I hear about things like policemen killing people, no matter what the situation is, how am I supposed to take that? Or that my current President might not step down after the election if he loses? Does he not realize how blatantly corrupt that makes him look? Like everyone already knows anyway so why hide it? How the hell am I supposed to feel safe here with garbage like that going on? I honestly don't understand what is SO HARD about just being a good person. The level of ignorance that has surfaced due to recent events is disgusting and makes me want to live anywhere but here. I doubt I'm alone in these feelings but sometimes it feels like I am. So that was my rant. Anyone feel like it's a good idea for me to take the opportunity to move to New Zealand?
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What you feel makes a person good is subjective, just like it is likewise subjective to what makes someone bad.
This is true for all of us and we each hold varying degrees of those thoughts. Your interpretation being that the US is a disaster zone. I'd strongly recommend unplugging from the news and social media and just try to be out in the world.
The reality of this is that, no matter how badly you want our great country to be perfect. It's never going to be, ever.
Our political system is way out of tune and tribalism is the drive behind that. Some notion of moral superiority, a more narcissistic trait of the human psyche.
Your life doesn't need to revolve around everything happening within the US. Just try to make it about who you're close to, your lover and the things you enjoy.
ReplyMaybe try getting involved to help things change?
ReplyI would go, but not for the reasons you specified. I would go just to have the experience of living somewhere else and enjoying my husband's heritage. It sounds like a great adventure and fun excitement. And, your husband knows the sights and the attractions, so it would be a challenge for you to find something he knows nothing about to do together. And, you can always move back to the states whenever you choose. Why wouldn't you go?
I completely agree with the previous commentor- "Your life doesn't need to revolve around everything happening within the US. Just try to make it about who you're close to, your lover and the things you enjoy."
ReplyYou will be worse off in the USA if Joe Biden and the Democrats win the election. They intend changing America's society to one of socialism. This means your rights will be taken away, freedom of speech will be taken away, God, religion, and churches will be gone and who knows what else. The BLM protesters have already burned Bibles in the street, statues have been knocked down as part of wiping out American history, and they have set fire to a church. This socialism is already being introduced. Look up life in Venezuela because this is how America could become with shortage of food and medicine. You will be much better off with Trump doing another term. As far as going to New Zealand I have worked with Kiwis (as New Zealanders are called) and they were nasty people. One guy said he has travelled to 17 countries and New Zealand was the worst because of the nastiness of the people. If I was to travel the world I would visit every country except New Zealand. Australia or Canada are better.
ReplyJust a typical response from a typical non-thinker. The OP married a kiwi so your strategy of persuasion is telling them that all kiwis are nasty people. This is beyond rude and disgusting; you deserve Donald Trump.
ReplyBoth Australia and Canada are faaaaar more socialist than the US. You should try to get better at thinking.
ReplyI just married a kiwi too! Congratulations!!! They are wonderful people. I couldn’t be happier. I’ve also spent a bit of time over the past year looking at options for visas and immigration in both directions—
Both countries have partnership/marriage visas. It is easier to get one in the US because the only requirement you need to meet is to be lawfully married. In NZ, they want to see that you and your husband have lived or travelled extensively together before they will consider your relationship to be a “partnership,” even if you’ve married. So from a practical standpoint, what you are doing right now—residing together in the US—is the best thing you can do (assuming that you haven’t been married for long). After you’ve been living together for a year or longer it will be easier for you to immigrate to NZ with your husband should you choose to do so.
I agree that this country has hit an unprecedented pace of decline in the standard of living and the expectation of peace. The problem is complex; rampant disinformation campaigns among unregulated information hubs like social media and alternative news sources make it difficult to trace the chain of responsibility. You’ll find that in other first world countries, like New Zealand, political conversations at all levels are much less extreme, and that the two major parties in power actually use the considerations from both sides to implement solutions to real problems—problems that they don’t deny are actually occurring. And that is how civilized politics should work. We recognize that priorities on both sides are equally important and do not just concede when one person starts shouting loudly about how the opposition is “evil.”
In the US, we’ve been sowing the seeds of division and alignment with extremist views for decades. Donald Trump is a symptom of that problem, the commenter above who has the hair-brained idea that socialism is ruining America even though our current failures are due to the deleterious effects of late-stage capitalism is a symptom of that problem, and the uneasiness that you feel about living here is a symptom of that problem. It will not go away with the next presidency regardless of who is elected. So, since you and I are in similar life situations, I’m going to share with you what I’ve decided to do, and perhaps you’ll find some value in my perspective—
My spouse and I will live here for perhaps the next ten years. During that time I will live my life and be diligent about which information I let influence me; I understand that the best way to remain unswept by a propaganda campaign is to consume the largest amount and *diversity* of information available to me, meaning I read books old and new, many Jews source liberal and conservative, and only align my own ideas with those that come from reputable experts in their respective fields out of recognition that their opinions are the ones of most value on those specific subjects. I stopped listening to the rhetoric of most politicians a long time ago but also recognize that there are a few politicians who look at information the same way I do and those seem to be the ones who have a genuine interest in fixing America. These are the representatives for whom I will vote and to whose causes I shall donate.
Then I’ll expatriate with my wife to New Zealand. Lush vegetation, friendly locals, universal health care and late life pensions, real gun control, political discourse that makes sense. I love my country and I do hope that things get better here, but I’m not going down with a ship steered by an increasing mass of mentally lazy people who show they don’t deserve any better than what we have now.
Congratulations and good luck.
Reply*news sources not “Jews source.” Blame autocorrect 😂
ReplyWhy can't America be like New Zealand? This country I call home sucks.
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