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I have a really bad habit of holding grudges against people, due to the fact that I absolutely hate confrontation and all that. and also I am so overly sensitive that when someone hurts me over something even quite small, it’s like something super drastic happened. I could hold a grudge against someone for ten years and not have an issue with it. It’s not against the person personally, I’ll do it with anybody. but it’s something I need to break but I’m not sure how. It’s so much easier and better for me to hold a grudge and avoid confrontation. but I know that’s not healthy or fair.
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Hey I think you should tell people how you feel. Speaking up doesn’t necessarily or always equate to confrontation, it’s a healthy form of communication. You are entitled to your feelings and as humans us our responsibility to communicate/express them when we feel we must otherwise how would anyone know for sure. Give yourself a chance, and if you’re worried about how it sounds or what to say, you can type it out in your notes and think on it or ask for a second opinion. Overall, let it out and don’t bottle things in.
When something hurts you maybe search within and ask yourself why it’s hurting you so that you may find the root, make peace with it, and allow yourself to move on or grow from it. I hope this helps.
ReplyHolding a grudge probably won't do either of you any good. And having a bad mood can affect your health over time.
So for the physical, mental, and social health of you and everyone around you, you should just tell them that whatever they did made you feel bad.
You said you hate confrontation, but you never know. It could change over time.
If you really don't know, seeking professional help would be a good option.
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ReplyYou need to muster up the confidence to confront people over what they do to you. To help build confidence write a few speeches, learn one and having your family or friends as your audience say it to them. Do this over time with your speeches.
Replytry using writing, write a letter to yourself addressed from them saying sorry for what they did to you, everything you want to hear write it down and send it to yourself.
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