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He seems to resent me. I try to reach out but I get nothing.
He has never been a talker. But aren't we supposed to grow together?
I feel like my feelings don't matter.
He mentioned that there is a worry about the company (he works for) going under as an effect of the pandemic. Maybe it's just that...?
Or maybe he just doesn't love me...?
How do we resolve this if he does not want to talk?
Do I persist?
Do I just wait? Again?
Been doing so for 20 years.
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Doom and gloom is getting old
I woke up early to have some time to myself with some peace and quiet without the news on and my husband vomiting negativity and "The world is ending"...
Most marriages have this type of problem at some point or another - men are simple and easy to please, but tend to be selfish - women have what easily pleases men, but take it all away because women are emotional, vindictive and spiteful. Communication and compromise might work, but it can be quite the obstacle just to "sit at the table for negotiations." Best of luck.
We all have a dark side.. and he succeeded at riling up that darkness... in all of us. Hopefully someday he'll reflect on the power and responsibility he had... and how he chose to actively divide us and undermine foundational pillars of democracy codified in sacred documents and upheld by the ultimate sacrifice of countless souls for the light of humanity.
It is always easier to divide people than to unite them; dividing is the path of least resistance with human nature. Perhaps he was not intellectually fit for the challenge he had of uniting people, or perhaps he had a zeal for the axiom "divide and conquer"... either way, neither the former or the latter was great for liberty and justice for all.
Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
ReplyThis is was the intended comment (disregard the one about "dark side"; although true, that was meant for a separate post.)
Most marriages have this type of problem at some point or another - men are simple and easy to please, but tend to be selfish - women have what easily pleases men, but take it all away because women are emotional, vindictive and spiteful. Communication and compromise might work, but it can be quite the obstacle just to "sit at the table for negotiations." Best of luck.
Courtesy notice: the following includes a reference to a book that contains writings over 2000 years old which are mostly parables about human nature, both vile human nature as well as moral human nature, parables that are meant to teach us to learn and grow. No religion required, and better yet: no public displays of devotion required. Some bullies will label this "trolling", so "change the channel" now if of no interest to you.
Corinthians 13:13
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
ReplyGive him an ultimatum. He talks or you walk. That should sort it.
ReplyReflect on your needs, communicate your needs to him explicitly (i.e. I need you to hug me because I am feeling sad), and ask him what he needs. If he doesn't know, give him time to think about it, but remind him that you are on his side. Remind him of the things he does well as well.
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