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Friend’s pervy dad?

1 year ago · 14 · Swimming , +3


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So I went out with my friend, and their dad took us. After a while, we went swimming and I wore a swimsuit that didn’t fit my friend. It was a bit big, but I didn’t know that until I was in the water. So I went swimming and then I saw the dad say something to my friend. They came up to me and said “I bet you love making my dad wet.”

Should I be embarrassed at this? I’m not even sure how much he saw, but still I found it embarrassing. I didn’t really want to come out of the pool then. Is there anything I should do? Or is this somewhat acceptable? The friend is really funny and just generally good, but I felt so embarrassed and small.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    Wow, sounds pretty inappropriate to me. But maybe they were just trying to be funny and failed. Sometimes a person's sense of humor can be really bizarre and awkward. I don't think you should be embarrassed at all, I think they should. But try not to let it get to you... maybe chalk it up as a failure of communication? If it happens again, then you'll know it's definitely creepy. And that's when you might have to say something to your friend.

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    • Theorist · 1 year ago

      Thanks for the advice, I’ll think about the communication bit

      Reply
  • HONESTYISKEY · 1 year ago

    You don’t need to justify your feelings. If it makes you uncomfortable try to never be around him alone. This world is a dangerous place for women. Some girls own fathers sexually harassed them, and in some cases ra**. Be on guard and tell someone you feel a bit uncomfortable. You could always tell your friends to come over your house so y’all don’t have to get tin contact with her dad.

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    • Theorist · 1 year ago

      Thank you for the advice. Who do you suggest I could tell?

      Reply
      • HONESTYISKEY · 1 year ago

        Idk how your relationships are so I don’t want to grieve you bad advice. If you have some chill aunts or even your parents depending on how they are with you. Maybe tell your other friends. Don’t worry! Try to not be around him. Protect yourself! GIRL POWER.

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  • Mr_Welex · 1 year ago

    Yeah, I feel you. I would too, but just tell your friend you don't play that. I see that joke as crossing the line and I would be extremely uncomfortable. Adress the issue.

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  • vamp · 1 year ago

    yeah um thats really bad. you should tell your parents or something. thats not ok

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  • LonelyTeenager16 · 1 year ago

    I feel like you should have left because that is not appropriate... but I would of been embarrassed too

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  • HONESTYISKEY · 1 year ago

    Hey, I’m wondering if everything’s alright? Idk I’m kinda invested cuz I’ve seen the women who are family members get assaulted like that. how are things going? Idk if that’s weird just curious.

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    • Theorist · 1 year ago

      Oh hey,

      Im fine thanks tbh.

      Ive tried to avoid meeting him and other than that im fine. It probably was just a communication error but still on my guard.

      Hey thanks for wondering. How are you tho? Anything i can try to help?

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      • HONESTYISKEY · 1 year ago

        Ok, lol I wasn’t sure if I was overstepping or something. I’m glad you ok, andI’m alright thanks for asking. Life keeps moving, yk. I feel like it’s so weird but, these days I’m so on guard with men. (It has VERY little to do with this post) I don’t know. In the grand scheme of things women are usually attacked and ruined while the man get away unscathed. That doesn’t sit well with me. Life ig

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        • Theorist · 1 year ago

          Yea, about men getting away, it doesn’t sit well with me either.

          I guess that is just the way of the world, right now anyway. But atleast ppl r getting more aware about s*xism.

          If you feel insecure about men i guess you can keep on your guard but maybe you can learn some defence skills.

          Fear of something, isnt weakness of the mind its sometimes can be because you cant defend yourself. It was said in a more graceful way but im not graceful.

          Yea, so i hope you’re ok in the future also stay aware, but remember that not every man is bad.

          Life ig tol

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          • HONESTYISKEY · 1 year ago

            That’s true. I really do need to learn how to fight.

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            • Theorist · 1 year ago

              True, but don’t fight unless you rly need to.

              Slight question, why are you on guard on men? Did something happen to you or someone you know?

              If you don’t want to answer that’s cool, sorry for asking.

              Reply

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