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So.. my friend started dating a guy she met online. And she was sharing their convos with me...
At first I thought ok.. this is fine I guess..
Then she started to share some.. juicy juicy stuff.. if you get what I mean 😠and some sweet stuffs between them too ofc... It was literally everything 🙂
So I told her that she can stop sending me her convos.
Just some more context, both she and her boyfriend knows that she's been sending their messages to me. And- honestly I was shooketh.
I told her it felt like I was intruding on their private matters and they didn't care about it. Keep in mind, I've mentioned this MULTIPLE times. They just- didn't mind me intruding...
So she kept sending me their messages..
But.. I care... About their privacy... I care that I'm intruding on them...
So I told her to stop sending me their messages harshly this time. No emojis or anything. I want this to stop. And she did stop.. so that's nice. And... idk.. it felt like I hurt her somehow??? Maybe I'm reading too much into this... She did say she didn't know how to react to it tho.. 'it' being: me telling her that it bothers me that she sends their messages to me...
Did I... Did I do the right thing...?
Some more context, I'm a girl. Friend is also a girl. I feel like this is important to mention >_>
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This one is tough, does she regard you as her bff or something? Or have they hinted at you joining in with their "activities" in some way?
Because that's about the only two reasons I can think of that she would be so willing to do that.
From my perspective, either she feels you're like a best friend and therefore she wants your input on almost everything and oh my gawd, gurlfrand did you see the way that slit puts my girls out, oh my gawd I feel like such a sleaze. Kind of deal.
Or, since the boyfriend is in on it too, it could be very likely that they intend on inviting you into the bedroom as a third wheel, if you catch my drift.
Those are the only two conclusions I can draw.
Did you do something wrong? Absolutely not. You felt uncomfortable with the information, asked for it to stop repeatedly and then you were a bit harsher after several failed attempts. I'd say you've done an excellent job at setting up a healthy boundary there.
So don't let the minds games get to you. You did what was right for you and thats what matters.
ReplyShe has mentioned that she only tells me these stuffs. I can't really say that I've known her for years.. it was like 4 months I guess.. and we did click. We went along quite well! I was the first person to know about her relationship. Maybe she just wants someone else to fangirl with her over these texts?! Idk ;-;
But she seemed pretty surprised when I told her I was uncomfortable with it tho.. so maybe this sort of thing is natural for her.. but not for me unfortunately...
And thanks for your words :)
ReplyU did the ryt thing so don't think about it way too much
ReplyYou did the right thing. If she doesn't understand your feelings then she isn't a real understanding friend
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