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When me and my bf argue he always threatens to hit me but doesn’t.. sometimes it’s a push or a pull or a shove.. it still isn’t pleasant. He also calls me out my name when he’s really angry. I can admit sometimes I take him there to his limits but I never put my hands on him or curse him I just tell him how I really feel about things and he hates it! Now I am thinking of other guys. I know it’s bad but I fantasize about other people now. I’ve never cheated but in my head yes! I just don’t really feel the love anymore even though I love him to pieces. Some things just hurt worse than others idk how to shake this feeling. I don’t know how to save my relationship. I don’t want to cheat on him I just want to be happy like we were back in high school ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ what should I do
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Pushes and shoves eventually change to punches. You should both go to relationship counselling to try to work things out. It looks like your bf is asserting is bossiness so the best thing for now is to pretend he is your dad so don't argue with him, and don't answer him back.
Years ago when people married they got on because it was in all marriage vows that the wives should obey their husbands, and many wives called their husbands 'daddy' especially after the children came along. As well as obeying the man who was head of the house they respected him. And the man respected the woman. People weren't getting divorced then like they do now. This bf of yours is showing disrespect by putting his hands on you, but then you shouldn't push him to this limit. Also it is absolutely no good with you telling him how you really feel about things which he hates. You shouldn't be doing anything that he hates. Your relationship will turn toxic if you keep going like this so try to keep it on an even and good keel. If you keep continuing like this remember there is always relationship counselling as I said. Relationships don't run themselves, it takes give and take, and hard work. If you are both willing to put in the work you will get there.
ReplyI love this. Thank you for taking your time to help.
ReplyMay I ask why you stay with him? Is it just that you've invested so much time and/or don't want to admit that you've made a mistake? If that's it, I've been there. It's tough but the only way to solve it is like ripping off a band aid, all in 1 quick decisive act. Sounds like you have a lot of guys to choose from so don't waste another minute with an abusive angry little man.
ReplyWell.... I’m pregnant with our first baby and really want things to work trust me I would have been left a long time ago
ReplyThey start with pushes and end with punches. He's finding out what he can get away with. Since you haven't left him yet, he will do more. and more. and more.
It's time to pack up and leave. Make it all about yourself, don't say there was anything wrong with him, just say you're not happy and need to get out. You don't need closure, it won't happen and he'll just get mad and perhaps kill you. Yes, people who push end up killing sometimes. Get away as soon as you can.
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