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Jacob,a child who lives with his parents, alongside his brothers, has a happy life full of comfort and free-stress.However, as he grows up, he is going to have difficulties to express himself to his parents, as they think that they are protecting him, and refuse to obey to most of the needs he want.Jacob will face difficulties at school, because of his health problems that are rare,even his closed ones started to take advantage of his weak points.
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Jacob's life wasn't difficult as everyone's life, he was comfortable as a child, shy, quiet, obey everything, he just goes to school, comes back home, hugs his father and mother, eat, and sleep. He can only play video games on Friday and Sunday because that's what his parents want. His mother during his childhood was very rough on him. His brother, Samuel, 5 years old, was 3 years younger than him. Samuel faced problems with his talking, as he used to repeat every letter in a word twice-3 times or forever. That made his parents have panic. So they never wanted to refuse something he wants, he was treated differently. And in every problem Jacob had with him, the older brother used to be accused, even if he didn't do anything, and his little brother started it. His mom used to scream on him, uses her violence, and always ended up badly. Jacob was a really sensitive guy, he is a pure heart, always wanted people near him to be like family or even more. His mom's actions on him really used to affect him, as he only wanted love from them. One time, he wanted to go the park 1 min walk away from him, all his friends were there and waited for him. His mom refused.
Jacob:"Mom I want to go there, All my friends are waiting for me"
Mom:"No"
Jacob:"Please just let me out for a hour"
His mother got angry and started to use her violence. She pushed him on the sofa, slapped him on his face, and jumped on him, he was left having injuries on his head, one blue cheek.Jacob slept with his face hurting. As a child, that didn't bother him a lot, he would forget everything the next day.The next day, he asked his mom if he could go to the park. She accepted, but before, she asked him to stop and put something on his face(vaseline) so that the effects of the injuries on his cheek won't appear and said:"If anyone asked you what is this, tell him you fell on the ground while walking on the stairs".He said:"Ok" He happily went to the park, played football(soccer) with his friends. However, the injuries on his face was a little noticeable when people were in front him.
Mark, friend of Jacob:"what's that on your face?"
Jacob:"I fell on the ground"
Walid:"What's that blue thing?"
Jacob:"I fell on the ground and hurt myself"
Jacob's parents loved him.However, the difference is that his father never or almost never used violence on him.He let him feel comfortable anywhere near him and always protected him from a bad comment or anything that barely do anything, except from my mother. Jacob's mother always worried, cried for Samuel, she couldn't support his talking problems. Once he participated in the theater, the school was preparing for it. Days later, they were invited. In the theater's day, all parents waited for the theater, but the teacher wasn't paying attention to her students, so Samuel got in the theater before his classmates, and started crying.My father got worried. A lot worried. So he wanted to go take him , but finally the teacher finally noticed him and took Samuel and apologized.
Parents have always that sort of protection, but Jacob's parents were always worried, they didn't want their children to get hurt.
5 years later, Jacob's parents decided to move them to a new school, Jacob was really affected from the inside, he always treated his classmates as his family,Samuel wasn't much bothered by the decision.
Jacob's father Alexander:"We should move you out of this school, people are talking really bad about its results"
Jacob:"Ok as you want"
As they moved, Jacob really missed his friends, he didn't have a phone to contact them, he was mentally affected so bad.While he was sleeping, he was crying silently in his bed. However, his parents noticed that. For the first time, they saw an emotional Jacob, who was crying because of this decision. His mother told him:"Why are crying? Please don't cry"
Jacob:"I miss my friends"
His mother got in the bed near him and hugged her so tight.
In the next few days, they noticed Jacob feeling sad. His father told him:"If crying makes you get your emotions out and feeling better, then do it, we are here to support you"
Jacob said:"No I'm ok"
Alexander:"If that makes you that sad, I'll take you back to your old school, no problem for us"
Jacob refused and said he is fine.
Jacob barely faced bullying at the time, he was never treated bad for having hyperhidrosis(excessive sweating) on his hands and his legs. Jacob suffered also from blushing. That was only the beginning of the road for him.
Jacob now, 16 years old, went to a new school again, but this time, the students were mentally different. His cousin, Lea, who he grew up with, went with her to the same school. They have the same age.
Jacob's new friends were bothered by his quiet personality. A girl asked:"Why are you so quiet?", Others"Say something".It wasn't a class where you could be on your own. Some classmates really try to piss me off so I could do something, but Jacob had a really cold ice-blood personality. Nothing could affect him. He used to talk with a girl that was one of the family relatives and his cousin Lea. Jacob wasn't that person that liked to fight, he doesn't want to do any harm to anyone, but also doesn't accept someone to hurt him.He saw that it wasn't a school where people really cared about their study. He saw that they only cared about fights and bullying. Day after day, Jacob's classmates started to know him more, however not to be friends with him precisely, but to use his weak spots when needed.However,he was the only one who could walk with a woman with his full confidence.That changed when he noticed that his friends started to act like he did something big and weird.That when his personality started to change. They saw Jacob's shyness,quietness, health problems, blushing and started to bully him verbally. That actually didn't matter for him at first, but what hurt him the most, when he saw how much his cousin Lea is jealous of him, she was always trying to "revenge" because of his success and started to bully him alongside with the others. That's what hurt him the most. Days later, his little cousin Ahmad, brother of Lea,got screamed at by his sports teacher because of something that wasn't known. Jacob couldn't do anything, the guy screaming at him was a teacher,so he doesn't have the right to even ask the teacher what he is doing. He was respectful.Lea didn't accept seeing Jacob watching his cousin so she called all her classmates and said:"Look, his cousin is getting screamed at and he doesn't even want to stop the teacher from screaming at him". It actually made Jacob sad,disappointed, because he went 2 weeks before the incident to help her study for her physics exam, and stayed 6 hours helping her.He thought she could appreciate that or at least be friendly. She didn't wish him to be well.The next day, the class noticed clearly Jacob's excessive sweating on his hands, and started talking about it, bullying him.Lea then said:"Stop bullying him, do you wish that God sends someone to you like him as a daughter or son?". Jacob pretended he never heard it. He really loved his family and didn't want to answer her but it made him feel weak. He went back home, he told his mother about Lea's situation and then said:"What should I do? Should I say something rude like she is saying to me? Or just ignore her". She said:"Just don't answer". Jacob's mom loved him. But it was days later that he discovered that she was almost his cousin's bestfriend. After all what he said to her, she acted normally like nothing happened. Jacob was almost exploding from the inside. He had devil thoughts for the first time. Couple days later,he had a picture of him with his friends, his face was full-red.redface,blushing. His friends said:"Oh he is doing his multicolor face again". He had no one that supported him. He never told that for his parents, he found it too weak for some reasons. When he came back home, he closed the door and started crying out of sadness. There was nobody, absolutely nobody that made him have faith in life. What he lived in that school, mind-destroyed him. He wasn't the same as before, he acts differently, he got socially anxious, more of everything mentionned above. His friends once said:"I wonder how this guy will drive , with his sweating hands, he couldn't even hold anything." Jacob's at that point had that deep thinking of what is the point of life. Why he only has those type of people around him, he doesn't deserve that. Nobody deserves that. It was the only time asking for help. He just wanted someone to hug him and express all his bad feelings. But nobody was. So he started to punch the wall, crying. That made him a stone. He really just wanted to disappear out of this world. People started to spread rumours about me, all the classes were vs him. He used to walk alone during free time. He knew at the time, that everyone, who thought was a friend, wasn't. It stayed the same way until he graduated and saw that, toxic people aren't everywhere.
He met nice people at university, but did that made him return to his personality? Impossible.It was impossible for him.People at his university really noticed how "unique, or weird" personality he was.
To be continued and more details if interested.
That guy was me. I'm writing this to tell you, if you are suffering bullying for any reason it was, you aren't alone.Don't settle too much on anyone.
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This is really well written I’m so sorry you had to go through that but thank you for sharing your story
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