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broken trust
I’ve been with my bf for 8 years now, met in college and he’s been with me through some of the most experiences of my life. Supported me through the good an...
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Your turn to help me see
memories, all they bring is sadness and pain. Regretting all the wrong, hating the good because nothing ever gonna be the same and the sadness of it all. So why...
I was thinking of doing it tonight, left things pretty ugly... i'll do it if you do it?
ReplyThey responded on social media only to later unfriend me for no reason. Its not worth it unless you think it is.
ReplyNot quite contacted my ex but he called me (it was like 10 years ago) we broke up when were still teens, like 16-17 and got to talk each other around our 20's (like 23-24) eventually we re-built our trust and friendship, eventually we found ourselves back together (we're 27) and planning our life together.
But not all stories are like this. Mine turned out like this because we were still too young to understand what in the world was a relationship. We did all the wrong things to each other and hurt ourselves badly; when we started to talk again was both a pain and awkward because we knew each other too well and didn't know how to start... from the beginning there was never hope for each other to be back at some point, we missed our friendship more than our relationship and started from there again. We never touched that subject because we were actually afraid to mess things up; when coronavirus started we had a conversation about the past and our feelings poped out.
If you want to text your ex because you miss them, do it but don't bring your own feelings there. If you want to reconnect with them or to salvage your friendship with them do it but don't try to fix a relationship that was already sinking; if something happens in the future, that's welcome but for now just let that rest.
ReplyIt's always been disappointing to me tbh. I talk to them and just like to recall all the stuff that happened so we can both apologise. They never cared and had the exact same personality as wet cement like the day they left. I contacted one just to say I'm sorry for doing wrong to her and they took it well. I removed them because that was more than enough closure for me. If you feel the need to contact them for closure, wait and if it sticks for a while (say a few months to a year) THEN maybe tell them how you feel.
ReplyI've never contacted an ex, but several have reached out and contacted me. It always went well. If anyone takes the trouble to reach out to me nicely, even an enemy, I'll always react in kind. But as for me being the first to reach out, no I've never done that. It takes a lot of guts.
Replyit didnt go well. both of us were married with kids and it had been 20 or more years since we had seen each other. i thought it would be just a brief hello, you look happy, i'm glad, me too kind of conversation. nope, it didn't turn out that way at all. he flipped out. his wife flipped out. next thing you know, he's stalking me. it was a disaster. exes are out of your life for a reason. keep them out,
ReplyYeah…I regret it. And I also regret ever meeting him. I would be less painful to put a bullet in my brain…I prefer it actually.
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