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So I posted this problem a few days ago
"So I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and he's a good guy he treats me very well... today I don't know why he brought up a weird topic maybe just to make me jealous he told me how he was se*xually attracted to his classmate 2 years ago and how he liked her body(indirectly but he still did it )...." I told my boyfriend to block this girl as I found her social media and they were friends on Facebook he swore it's not her and told me the girl he was talking about dropped out of college after that year but I found out that he lied about this and it was her what should I do ? I feel so betrayed and I hate being lied to ....
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Honestly, see this as a red flag. Small things like this are a significant insight to how the relationship will be. Its okay to be jealous and things would be different if he comforted you and reassured you rather than lying to you. Ive seen friends who have ignored the signs and it turned into something toxic. I have been there as well. And I wish someone wouldve told me to see it and leave him. Do NOT keep giving him chances, these situations only tend to get worse and can do more damage than we realise. Get out and find someone right for you instead please. (This is my advice someone may see it differently, but I as someone who doesnt like being taken for a ride and lied to, Its something I cant and shouldnt have to compromise on, relationships are based off trust, if so early on theres deceit please run)
ReplyThis is the first time he lied to me and when I confronted him he made me think I'm insane and he got really angry which is a bigger red flag he's tryna gaslight me into believing him and I'm SHOOK he never did anything like this before he's a nice guy I don't know why he's acting like that and I love him but this is toxic as he's still insisting to this moment that he's telling the truth and I'm the one who's making conclusions and I ruined his mood for studying 🙂
ReplyHe blocked her tho
ReplyDoesnt matter, I know you love him, and im very very glad you recognise he is gaslighting you and that its toxic. I just hope that you can break it before it becomes a vicious cycle. He is going to keep denying it, and clearly at this point whether its the first time he lied or the 10th time, clearly the very foundation of the relationship is shook. So yes he did block him, yes he may love you, yes hes a nice guy. But its not worth it. You do not want to be wondering 2 years later whether youre overthinking, anxious because you were gaslit in a relationship. So please get away since even you realise that this is not a healthy relationship. And 3 months in? This is happening 3 months in? What about 1 year down the line. So in my honest opinion, get away and save yourself from the most likely misery (to both of you)
Replywhy are you wasting time on someone who makes you feel like that? he's just a boyfriend. go get another one if the one you have is getting on your nerves that much. this isn't just happening over the course of one conversation. it's lasting longer.
why do these people lie? i don't understand it. if you want to date more than one person, do it. if you only want to date one person, do that. there's nothing wrong with either one. why lie about it? there's no point in lying. nothing to gain from it at all. why do people make this so complicated?
ReplyDROP HIM!! It only gets worse from here and he’s already tried gaslighting you and manipulating you.
I promise you will be okay without him and you have people to support you. I promise you can find someone who doesn’t lie and someone who WILL treat you like a queen
I’ll tell you rn, you won’t forget this situation. It’ll live inside your head and you’ll torture yourself over it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy and have BOUNDARIES and I would HATE to know you have stayed with a man who has no respect and obviously is obsessed over another female
She obviously is in his head and who knows what else he does when he thinks of her.
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